How To Talk To Anyone, Per Astrology

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How To Talk To Anyone, Per Astrology

Even the chattiest zodiac signs have been in a situation where they just didn't know how to start a conversation with someone.

Maybe you're having trouble undoing the double knots in your tongue when you're around someone you have a crush on.

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Maybe you just don't know how to strike up a conversation with someone you look up to. Maybe you just really suck at knowing what to say in any situation.

The point is, we've all been there. No zodiac sign is immune to having their mind go totally blank on them.

Of course, each astrology sign is able to regain their confidence and say something meaningful to the person they really want to talk to. When you think too much about what to say, almost everything sounds like a lame suggestion.

Do you talk about the weather? Should you ask them how they're doing? Is that a weird thing to ask when you've been religiously stalking them on Instagram for the past few months, so you kind of already know what's going on in their life?

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Yeah, maybe you should relax a bit. While you want to open with something meaningful (of course), sometimes the best course of action is to start with small talk. This is an especially good idea if you don't know the person very well yet.

The last thing you want to do is to dive into something super serious before even introducing yourself, which is bound to backfire on you.

Instead, introducing yourself, asking them about themselves, and bonding over shared interests is a good starting point and can get rid of some of the awkwardness.

When first initiating a conversation, the most important thing to remember is that you want to show that you are a friendly, approachable person. After that, you can really let your personality out. Once, I was really into this guy who was a friend of a friend.

I really wanted to have a conversation with him (and maybe something more), but every single time I was around him, I literally could not speak.

It wasn't even that I stuttered around him or kept talking about the weather like I was a weatherman – I could not speak to save my life.

I was nervous and tongue-tied to the point that my mouth felt like sandpaper. Naturally, that relationship (or friendship) never went anywhere, but having your mind go completely blank like that is an experience I can't even describe.

Now, I know that the things I open with don't have to be the wittiest or smartest things I've ever thought of but rather just ways to break the ice.

I also know that I could have used a wing-woman to help me out, but years later, it doesn't seem important enough anymore to chastise my friend for not having my back on that one.

Whether you have a specific person in mind you'd like to chat up, or you just want to brush up on your conversation skills, keep reading for exactly how to start a conversation, based on your horoscope sign.

ARIES (March 21 - April 19)

You often dominate conversation, Aries, so trying to figure out what to say when talking to someone else isn't too hard for you. Oftentimes, you just go with the flow of the conversation, but you DO also like when there's actually a point to whatever the other person is saying.

You have a lot on your plate! You don't need to have a conversation that goes nowhere when you could be checking things off your to-do list.

If you're looking for ways to start a conversation with someone – during times when you actually do want to talk – start by talking about whatever you're currently working on.

You have a way of making pretty much anything seem exciting, so even though you might just be talking about boring work stuff, you'll at least have a starting point before you get into office drama or a side project you've started.

TAURUS (April 20 - May 20)

You can be shy when you're not in a familiar environment, Taurus, so making conversation with someone new can be hard for you at first. The best piece of advice I can give you is to take your time before jumping into a convo, whether it's with one person or a lot of people.

Talking just for the sake of talking will only make you more uncomfortable, so you're better off listening until you have something to say.

When you do want to start a conversation with someone, talk about your thoughts on something. You can be a very factual person, so talking about your feelings isn't always easy.

Ask the other person what they thought about a new movie that just came out, the results of the last hockey game, or what they think about those home-delivery cooking services. Once you get the conversation started, you'll get more comfortable talking.


GEMINI (May 21 - June 20)

Talking is definitely your bag, Gemini, which means you rarely have trouble starting a conversation or deciding on a topic to talk about. You talk a lot and you talk fast, and anyone who engages you in conversation knows that they don't have to say much for you to keep things flowing.

You're also amazing at small talk, trivia, icebreakers, stories – everything. You just like expressing yourself through words.

Unlike most of the other zodiac signs, you're able to strike up a convo very easily. When you want to start a conversation with someone, you tend to start with some questions or a joke.

You might ask them about the city they live in, if they've ever read a certain book, or make a joke about something embarrassing a celeb said on Twitter the other day. The best thing for you is to just not think about it too much – just say whatever comes to mind!

CANCER (June 21 - July 22)

Conversation is a way for you to connect with someone on an emotional level, Cancer. You might have a hard time opening up to someone new at first, but you also bond through conversation.

One of the main things you always insert into your chats with someone is asking them how they've been, because you truly care about how things are going in someone's life.

Before you can start a conversation, you need to be in a comfortable, safe space where you can feel free to be yourself. Loud parties or unfamiliar places will only make you clam up.

Once you feel comfortable, start a conversation by asking questions about the other person, like what they do for work or what they do in their free time. It'll give them a chance to take the spotlight while you listen so that you can warm up to the convo.

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LEO (July 23 - August 22)

You're a very confident and self-assured zodiac sign, so conversation comes very easily to you. You love being in the spotlight and, as the loud friend, you tend to attract an audience, even when you're not trying.

You also need everyone's undivided attention when you speak, which means your conversations usually have depth and a lot of detail – small talk can be boring to you.

The best way for you to start a conversation is to talk about yourself or tell a story – or both. Like the time you caught your coworker stealing your lunch every day for a week once (true story) or how your friend lost her wallet when you were on vacation and you thought she'd never find it before you left.

Even the most boring accounts can be retold by you with excitement and humor, so just talk about what comes naturally.

VIRGO (August 23 - September 22)

You might come off as reserved or quiet at first, Virgo, but once you get comfortable around someone, you can really open up.

Conversation must have substance, though. Small talk and chit chat about nothing can be really boring for you, and chances are, you won't engage if there's no point to the conversation.

You're a very analytical person, so conversation about things that get your brain working always piques your interest. You like mulling over facts and data, so topics about how something works or the "why" of thought-provoking questions are right up your alley.

You also like topics about human nature, so you often find yourself helping someone work through a personal problem.

LIBRA (September 23 - October 22)

Libra, you love conversation. You also love getting to know people through conversation, being the social butterfly that you are and all. So, when it comes to striking up a convo with someone new, knowing what to say comes fairly easy to you.

That said, you will definitely walk away if a controversial topic like the political climate comes up – you have conflict and arguing, so you avoid it like the plague.

You don't mind sharing your opinion on things, but you can also be easily influenced by other people's ideas and thoughts. If you're looking for ways to start a conversation, dive into a back-and-forth dialogue with one person, rather than with a crowd of people that can overwhelm you.

Get the other person's opinion on things they care about, and remember to let yourself speak freely – they want to hear the real you, not something you've rehearsed.

SCORPIO (October 23 - November 21)

Scorpio, you're a very intense and quiet person. You're definitely the wallflower who prefers to watch and listen over being the leader of the conversation.

When you do feel the need to talk, you know how to read a room first – just so that you can figure out if engaging in conversation is worth your time or not.

One of your best skills is being able to ready other people's body language, which ensures you're talking to someone who actually wants to talk to you, too.

The best way for you to start a conversation with someone new is to start with small talk so that you can feel out the other person's interests and opinions. If you're lucky enough to find someone who is obsessed with the same things you are, the conversation with flow freely.

If not, you can still have a superficial conversation about the weather or favorite books at the moment without seeming like you're totally disinterested.

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SAGITTARIUS (November 22 - December 21)

Sagittarius, you get along with a lot of different people and groups. You can pretty much walk into a room and strike up a conversation with everyone in there with ease. You love expressing yourself through conversation, and because you're so easy to talk to, others feel comfortable expressing themselves around you, too.

The best way for you to start a conversation is to start with some humor. You might already be comfortable around someone new, but the other person needs to warm up to you first before they can get into deeper topics.

Crack a joke or say something witty before getting into the topics you really enjoy, like thought-provoking questions, your personal opinions, or a heartfelt and sincere convo.

CAPRICORN (December 22 - January 19)

You're the kind of zodiac sign that prefers deep, meaningful conversations over small talk, Capricorn. You don't often engage with people who don't really seem to know what they're talking about because you already know that you won't have anything in common with them.

When you do talk to people, you tend to focus more on facts and thoughts over opinions and feelings. You are most comfortable in conversations with older and wiser people, or more experienced people.

You want whatever conversation you're in to have substance. The best way for you to start a convo with these kinds of people is to ask them about their experience or advice they might be able to share with you. You always want to learn from a conversation, so go into each one with that open mindset.

AQUARIUS (January 20 - February 18)

You're a very social and friendly zodiac sign, Aquarius. Conversation comes easily to you when you're around your squad, but you also enjoy the thrill of meeting new people and getting to know what's going on inside their heads.

You are another zodiac sign that prefers conversation with substance, but you also like thinking outside of the box. Your conversations often include your radical views and out-there ideas – even if they really only make sense to you.

While you might have a lot of opinions and emotions, you like to keep your conversations as objective as possible. The best way for you to start a conversation with someone is to inject your personality into whatever the topic is.

Ask them what they're reading or watching on Netflix at the moment, get their opinion on some conspiracy theories you've been reading about, or ask them what they like to do in their free time and why.

PISCES (February 19 - March 20)

You might seem like a very quiet person on the outside, Pisces, but you have a lot going on inside that mind of yours. You're a deep thinker who prefers to work things out inside your head than share anything and everything with people you barely know.

You are most comfortable around your close-knit squad because you know that if you express a half-formed thought or opinion that they won't judge you for it.

If you're looking for ways to start a conversation with someone new, it's important to be yourself. You know that you can be quiet and quirky sometimes, but that doesn't mean you have to change yourself just to get someone to like you.

You tend to do most things in life with emotions, so start by asking the other person about their personal life, interests, and family. You're another zodiac sign that's good at giving advice, but remember not to become their therapist – sometimes just listening is enough.

Emily Ratay is a full-time writer living in Pittsburgh. She's passionate about the environment and feminism, and knows that anything is possible in the right pair of shoes. She plans on writing a non-fiction book in the future.