What Mercury Retrograde In Scorpio Means For Your Love Life And Relationships This Week, Starting December 1st
We all have to face our demons at some point.
getty On December 1st, Mercury retrograde will journey into Scorpio, testing us to see if we’ve truly healed or just glossed over what scars are holding us back from living the life we want. As for our zodiac signs, what will this transit in astrology mean for our relationships and love horoscope?
Mercury is the planet of communication and information, so while in retrograde motion we’re being asked to go over old ground and have a second look at things. The trickster planet went into his retrograde motion November 17th and will be there until December 6th, so we have about a week to make the most of this energy before we’ll be asked to take action on it.
No one seems to like a Mercury retrograde, but as one of the planets that turn more frequently (on average about three times a year), we actually are affected less than the bigger moving planets like Jupiter or Neptune. But this little planet that usually is responsible for travel delays, missed communication or that drunken text you knew you shouldn’t send still makes his mark during the three weeks where we are being asked to slow down and review.
The planet of communication slows during the year to help us review, reconsider, and relook at situations that we already had thought were a closed book.
In life we like to create more dramatic endings, so at times we think we can just decide to have things stop at any given time. This might be in terms of a relationship, but it could also be a pattern of behavior, coping mechanisms or even components of a fear-based mindset.
We can decide to end anything, but whether or not it’s actually run its course is quite another. Sometimes good intentioned we cut off situations or people before we are actually ready for them to be over because we haven’t learned or experienced what our soul had signed up for.
These moments aren’t easy because it’s the end of these cycles we cut out that tend to feel the most painful or even trigger us deeply. Yet what we forget is that through the darkest moments the greatest healing is possible.
Many of us have been triggered lately in terms of our relationships; to say that we are confused or uncertain is an understatement. It feels like the rug was ripped out from beneath us during the past couple months, and while we are feeling and seeing truths, we’ve yet to bring everything together to not only heal what occurred but also heal ourselves so we don’t keep repeating the same patterns.
This means that through this transit of Mercury retrograde in Scorpio, we’re going to really look at ourselves and what aspects of our personalities created the situations that we are now dealing with. What wounds have we not yet healed? What fears are we projecting? How is how we talk to ourselves influencing the relationships we enter into?
Right now we are supposed to be looking at ourselves, not at the deepest secrets of our partner like during Venus retrograde; rather, we need to look at the parts of ourselves we tend to ignore.
We have to own our part in what has happened recently and how we go from here. We have to look at ourselves and be observant of aspects of codependency, narcissism, avoidance, or even the fear of abandonment. No one wants to be a cliché, but many of us have these traits or qualities which filter down to the issues that always end up arising in our romantic relationships.
At some point we just have to call ourselves on it; we have to make the choice to not just say we’re going to do better but actually do better. We have to be willing to own the ways that we behaved less than our full authentic selves, the times where we fell backwards into old patterns instead of stepping up to become our best selves, and that means that whatever relationship issues are currently happening are not the fault of one person.
This is the time to not just become aware of our darkness thanks to Scorpio but to figure it out, to make the choice to not just gloss over what we don’t want to see or what is difficult, and instead chose to do something about it. We have to be honest with ourselves and with our partners so we invite in accountability — not to have someone else do the work for us but to show that we’re committed to speaking of our growth and actually participating in the practice of it.
We have made excuses for so long and now we’re being asked to look deep at why we aren’t waking up next to the love of our life each morning.
While at times we feel ready to move on, to be in that committed relationship or simply to just take that next step into our future we also often unconsciously hold ourselves back and keep ourselves small so we don’t have to grow. The time of doing that is over though, because if there is one thing that we need to take away from 2018, it's that we need to see it, feel it and acknowledge it in order to truly heal it.
It’s time for us to stop being the reason why we’re not living our best life with the one that sets our world on fire. Let the deep waters of Scorpio wash over you in the next week, take the time to be honest with yourself, and look in the mirror and take responsibility. Then, be prepared to open to your partner and starting sharing, communicating and having a relationship unlike one you’ve ever had before.
Kate Rose is an artist, writer, passionate yogi, spiritual astrologist, relationship and life coach. For more of her work, go to her website Words of Kate Rose.