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What He Finds (Extremely) Attractive, By His Zodiac Sign

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What He Finds (Extremely) Attractive, By His Zodiac Sign

How do you attract someone? Is it the same as how you'd want someone to attract you? Maybe you're the kind of person to just go for it; you don't think, you just walk right up to someone you think is cute and introduce yourself.

Or maybe, you're not that bold and you'd much rather take a subtler approach, like having your BFF chat them up first. Attracting someone through their zodiac sign is not a one-size-fits-all kind of deal.

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Each horoscope has different needs when it comes to attraction and dating, which means that what will work for a Gemini won't work for a Virgo. If you want to get the attention of a certain zodiac sign, you need to understand what they want from a potential partner before pulling out all of your classic seduction moves. That said, it's still important to be yourself.

You can't expect to get very far if you're doing something totally not you, right? I mean, if you're someone who is subtle in their approach to attraction, you're certainly not going to feel comfortable with a more assertive approach, right?

Assertiveness might work on some horoscope signs, but you also need to show them that there's a part of you that's a lot subtler and more relaxed, too. Ultimately, attracting the zodiac sign of your choice is only the first step.

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Once you've got his attention, it's up to you to show him the real you. And yes, there is a way to attract the person you're crushing on and still be yourself. One way to do that is to stand out from the crowd.

If you are a self-taught master of the French language, show off your talent and teach him how to say a few dirty words. Or maybe you're a great debater; challenge him to a debate on something and if you win, he has to take you out on a date.

Some people might find this a silly tactic, but it makes a lasting impression. He'll certainly remember you over everyone else this way. Another way to attract the zodiac sign you're interested in is to look beyond the surface.

Sure, we can't always help but determine if we're attracted to someone by the way they look on the outside, but you should also take the time to get to know him. Who knows? You two might just have something in common that can keep you talking for hours.

Lastly, body language goes a looong way. Even if the two of you are giving eyes at each other, he's not going to want to come over if your body language screams "closed off" – he just won't waste his time.

Be confident in your attraction technique and show him that you – all of you – wants to get to know him better. Once you get the basics down, you can fine tune your methods to snag a specific zodiac sign.

Each one is unique, so here is how to attract the zodiac signs, according to astrology.

ARIES (March 21 - April 19)

If you want to be Aries' lover, you gotta play hard to get. That's how the Spice Girls song goes, right? Just because Aries likes an honest partner who is upfront about their feelings for him, doesn't mean that's what he wants right away. In fact, he'd much rather you tease him and give him only a taste of what you're like for now.

Aries loves the chase because it challenges him. He's all about competition and making sure that he's the one who comes out on top, so what better way for you both to get what you want than to let him think he needs to chase you to win your heart? He'll win when he finally catches you and you'll win when you get him all to yourself.

TAURUS (April 20 - May 20)

Taurus loves big hearts. He can't get enough of them. If you want to attract him, you need to flash a little bit of that big-heart side of yours, so he can see just who you are before he decides if he wants to date you or not. You could be a total catch to someone else, but if you're not sweet and caring too, he'll want none of it.

Taurus loves a compassionate and kind person. He always tries to do right by others, no matter what the situation is, so he needs to know that you're going to be by his side sharing your heart with him. At the end of the day, you're not going to be trying to impress him and win him over with your looks and conversation skills; you need something more than what's on the surface.

GEMINI (May 21 - June 20)

Gemini is by no means a shallow person – but you can't fault him for considering your looks when he's trying to figure out if he's into you or not. For him, first impressions count BIG time. Yes, that means physical appearance, but it also means your interactions with other people and how you present yourself. If you want to attract a Gemini, you need to start with yourself.

Impress him with your looks before you even introduce yourself to him. That means wearing something that makes you feel like a confident badass and putting your best smile on your face. You know how you're always supposed to present your best self on social media? Use attracting Gemini as an IRL version of this. When he sees your best side, he's gonna be hooked.

CANCER (June 21 - July 22)

Cancer is one of those people who always surprise you once you get to know the real him. He can be shy and unassuming at first glance, but once you get to know him, you'll realize that he's a fierce lover who wants to know every single part of you. Love for someone can turn him into a bit of an obsessive, so if you want to attract him, you need to prepare for that intensity.

If you want to get Cancer to notice you, it's all about being open and gentle. He might take a bit prodding at first before he opens up to you, but knowing that you're willing to take things slow and be genuine with him helps. He's also going to want to roll his sleeves up and get dirty with you, so you'll need to be ready to open up emotionally, physically, and mentally for him.

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LEO (July 23 - August 22)

Attracting a Leo is as easy as stroking his big, fat... ego. Leo knows he's a catch, and he knows you know he's a catch, so it's all up to you to make that first move. Sure, he might flirt with you a bit and butter you up, but like a lion circling his prey, he wants to see what moves you'll make before he pounces.

Let him know how special he is. Say something witty and flirty to set yourself apart from everyone else drooling all over him so that he knows you're interested (and so he remembers you). He might need you to indulge him and give him attention at first, but don't worry, he always reciprocates. Soon, he might just be stroking your ego.

VIRGO (August 23 - September 22)

Virgo loves a little flirting, but he also loves a little somethin' somethin' else, too. And by that, I mean your flirting and conversation should keep him on his toes. If all you're texting him is winking face emojis and hearts with sparkles, he's going to get bored FAST. If you want to attract him, you need to show him that you're more than just a few dry texts.

When you get to know him, keep it intelligent, but fun. Hit him with your best cheesy pickup lines, make conversation about climate change and your favorite documentaries, reveal the secret that helps you win at beer pong every time. In other words, show him your dimensions. You're not boring – show him what a catch you are just by being yourself.

LIBRA (September 23 - October 22)

Libra wants someone who will sweep him off his feet, so it's important that you take his need for a fairytale relationship into account when attracting him. He badly wants to be able to say that you two met because you locked eyes from across a crowded room while angels played harps... but because that probably won't happen, there are other ways to get him to notice you.

To win over a Libra, you should be spontaneous and romantic. Meet him for a romantic lunch during the workday, surprise him with flowers, and most importantly, live in the moment together. He wants to know that he's the only thing you care about when you're together. Don't check your watch or text your BFF when you're with him; show him he means the world to you.

SCORPIO (October 23 - November 21)

Like it or not, Scorpio puts you through the wringer when he decides if you're worthy enough to go out with him. I know, that's harsh, but it's also sometimes true. He doesn't give just anyone access to his heart, so you have to show him that you're serious about him by putting in the legwork. Don't worry, he'll work hard, too, but only if you prove you care about him.

The best way to do this is to mirror his actions. If he's listening intently to you when you're talking about something important, do the same for him. Do kind gestures for him, get deep with your feelings, and take things slow. He'll need some time to really open up to you, but knowing that you're interested in getting to know the whole package means a lot to him.

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SAGITTARIUS (November 22 - December 21)

Attract a Sagittarius by showing him that you have enthusiasm for life. Nothing is more attractive to Sagittarius than having a partner that can get just as excited about moving to a new city or getting a new job as going grocery shopping together. You don't have to be jumping for joy all the time, but just showing that you actually care about things is enough.

Get Sagittarius to see what a great partner you'd be for him by talking about your dreams and goals. The sky's the limit, and if any zodiac sign is the best person to share all your wildest dreams with, it's Sagittarius. Show him that you have ambitions and that you want to succeed in life and he'll be eating out of the palm of your hand.

CAPRICORN (December 22 - January 19)

Capricorn can sometimes be a tricky one to attract. He kind of already knows what he wants in a partner, so he'll often not even bother dating you if you don't seem perfect right away. But the best way to make sure that he actually gives you a chance is to first and foremost be genuine in your feelings. Don't just put on a show because you think that's what he'll want.

Capricorn would much rather see the real you upfront so that he knows what he's in for. Be real with him and he'll appreciate it all the more. You should also show him that you have a taste for success and that you have goals. He wants to know that you can have a rich, full life outside of the relationship; show him that you can be independent with him, not dependent on him.

AQUARIUS (January 20 - February 18)

Aquarius can sometimes be hot and cold when it comes to dating. One moment he wants a serious partner, the next he'd rather keep things casual with no strings attached. So, before you even try getting him to notice you, it's important to know that he can be a dating enigma. That said, the best way to attract an Aquarius is by being warm and friendly.

Aquarius is much more likely to open up to you and see you as a potential partner if he knows that you see him as a friend first. He's all about building a strong foundation, so really take the time to get to know him when trying to attract him. Little gestures go a long way with him, but don't come on too strong. He'll get scared away if he feels like you're trying too hard.

PISCES (February 19 - March 20)

Pisces often feels like he's in a league of his own when it comes to dating. It takes time for him to find the perfect partner because he feels like not everyone gets him and gets what he's about. If you want to attract a Pisces, you need to be thoughtful and meaningful. Showing him that getting to know him is your priority can make all the difference.

Prove to him that you know him. He doesn't want cheesy pickup lines or a declaration of love because that's not who he is. What he wants – from anyone, not just a partner – is to be understood. Relate to him, have late-night conversations, and show him that you're always thinking about him, and he'll see that you're a serious catch.

Emily Ratay is a full-time writer living in Pittsburgh. She's passionate about the environment and feminism, and knows that anything is possible in the right pair of shoes. She plans on writing a non-fiction book in the future.