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Yes, you can be too nice.
By Christine Schoenwald — Written on Mar 23, 2018
Do people tell you that you're too nice? Being a nice person isn’t a bad thing; it’s when you’re so nice that you let people walk all over you and treat you like crap where it becomes a problem. And for the nice zodiac signs, they can run into a problem here.
When your horoscope tells you that your excessive kindness is allowing others to take advantage of you, you may start to doubt yourself. But astrology is here to help you realize how to change this.
If you’re nice just because you don’t or can’t say no, then you risk letting your selflessness grow into being bitter and angry. When you’re too nice, you’re almost daring people to push you to see how much you’ll take. They can look at your niceness as something they can use to their own advantage.
Our personalities are shaped by our zodiac sign in many ways. Our signs can help determine our behavior, likes and dislikes, even our temperaments. Here are the zodiac signs who tend to be too nice and should probably learn how to hold back.
1. CANCER (June 21 - July 22)
You're always there whenever someone needs you, which means you're the free equivalent of a therapist. While you tend to keep your problems to yourself, everyone else feels free to dump all their drama, angst, and emotions on you.
The thing is you enjoy being there for others, though there are times when it seems as if your schedule is filled with helping other people, not helping yourself. You need to carve out some time for your own emotional well-being. If you need to be less than nice to practice self-care, that's okay.
2. LIBRA (September 23 - October 22)
One of the reasons you have such a hard time making decisions, especially where other people are concerned, is because you don't want anyone to be hurt by your outcome. If you and your BFF are sharing a salad, you let her make the decision, in case you mess up and order something she doesn't like.
This "too niceness" of yours is also why you're not a big fan of conflict and confrontation. If you're nice, maybe everybody will get along and be happy. Sometimes you need to stick up for yourself, no matter what the consequences.
3. PISCES (February 19 - March 20)
You tend to be way too nice and trusting. You give everybody the benefit of the doubt and you hand out second chances as if they were Halloween candy. People tend to take advantage of your niceness and will definitely push it to see how much you'll take; and they're in luck, because you can take a lot.
You're very generous and you take it as a personal failing if you can't help someone in need. It doesn't matter if the person in need is a friend, a family member, or a complete stranger — you're there to save the day.
4. VIRGO (August 23 - September 22)
You say yes all the time, and you're always there when someone needs you. In fact, you say yes so much, you're starting to resent being so agreeable. You don't want to be a compulsive people-pleaser, but it seems to be part of you. You'll agree to things that you don't want to do and then end up feeling overwhelmed and underappreciated.
You can't help being too nice, but you wish someone would show you a little gratitude. You're a lot more popular and respected than you think and you don't have to be overly nice so that people will like you.
5. CAPRICORN (December 22 - January 19)
If your boss needs you to do some task for them at an accelerated speed, you'll do it. You're the one everyone comes to when they need help or guidance. The fact is you work too much and take on too many projects because you don't want to let anyone down. You work extra shifts, cover for people, and would even do their work for them if they were in desperate need.
You volunteer for the crap jobs that no one wants to do. You take on much more than you can handle. Start practicing saying no for your own sake. You can't do everything and you're sensible enough to know that you only have so much energy and time, and that you need to hold on to some of that for your own self.
Christine Schoenwald is a writer, performer, and teacher who loves writing and performing personal narratives. She's had pieces in The Los Angeles Times, Salon, Woman's Day, Purple Clover, Bustle, and is a regular contributor to Ravishly and YourTango. Check out her website or her Facebook page.