9 Life-Changing Questions To Ask Yourself When You're Feeling Lost

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When you're feeling lost, it can feel as though you might not ever learn how to be happy and find your way again. You feel disconnected and unsure of yourself. Your mental GPS is offline and you don't know how you got here, but here you are.

That's OK! It's natural for this to happen once in a while. The important thing is that you don't let it overcome you.

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It can take time to start feeling like your old self again, but you can accelerate the process by asking yourself these questions. Think of it as a mental health checklist.

1. When did I start feeling this way?

Analyze the circumstances surrounding the time you began to feel lost or disconnected with yourself. Did an event take place that set these feelings in motion? If so, what was it?

Figuring out what triggered your current state of mind is the first step you need to take to get yourself back on track. You may be unconsciously feeling sad or angry about something, but not dealing with it. It's time to do some internal reconnaissance. 

2. What am I missing?

Many times, people feel lost because they feel empty. If you feel like something is missing from your life, ask yourself what it could be. You may have your dream job, you may have already found your soulmate, but there might be something else you need to feel fulfilled. Deep down, what do you want more than anything? 

3. What makes me feel good?

People who suffer from depression often feel lost or like they're in a daze. You may have been in a funk for so long already that you forgot about the things you really enjoy.

Think back to a time when you were happier or when you felt alive or present. What were you doing then that you're not doing now? Maybe it's time to re-engage in those activities. 

4. What matters most to me?

The answer to this could be concrete or it could be abstract. For example, you may have a passion for animals, but you ended up in an accounting job. Or perhaps you value loyalty above all else, and you feel like someone has betrayed you.

In both of these instances, you are theoretically stuck in a place that doesn't satisfy your emotional needs. Ask yourself what matters most to you and do you have it?

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5. When was the last time I felt connected to myself?

When you're feeling lost, you feel alienated from yourself. Reflect on your life: When did you feel most in tune with yourself and the world around you?

Once you find the answer, compare it to what is going on in your life right now. Why did you feel most connected with yourself at X time in your life? Retrace your steps and dig deep. 

6. When was the last time I tried something new?

Maybe you're not feeling lost so much as you are feeling a sense of ennui. Being bored or feeling suffocated by your daily routine can take the energy right out of you. Try something new to jumpstart your engine.

Sometimes all it takes to start feeling like yourself and learning how to be happy again is a change of pace. Try a new physical activity to get your blood pumping or visit a cultural site to get some cerebral exercise. 

7. Am I doing too much?

Have you made time for yourself lately? If you're taking on too many tasks or responsibilities, you could be stretching yourself too thin. Being productive is healthy, but running yourself into the ground is not. Everyone needs to take a breather once in a while and allow themselves personal time. 

8. Am I not doing enough?

Mental health is a balancing act. The flip side to doing too much is not doing enough, and that can also be the culprit behind feeling lost.

There is a difference between relaxing and being idle. You need to be active and engaged in order to fully experience life. While down time is important, too much of it can make you feel like you are lacking purpose

9. Who can I talk to?

It is important that you know you don't have to handle these feelings all by yourself. If you're feeling lost, you very well might need a helping hand to find your path again.

Try talking about your feelings with a friend, family member, or even a therapist. It's hard to see clearly when you're stuck in a fog. Someone else might be able to give you a fresh perspective that you never considered before.

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Taylor Markarian graduated from Emerson College with a B.A. in Writing, Literature & Publishing. She is a freelance writer and editor who enjoys writing about about music, lifestyle, culture, the arts, entertainment, and literature. Check out her LinkedIn and her website.

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