5 Ways You Can Stop Premature Ejaculation (And How Women Can Help)
Premature ejeculaton doesn't have to ruin your sex life!
Photo by Adi Goldstein on Unsplash The actual statistics required for the medical diagnosis of premature ejaculation (or PE) is, according to sex therapist Amy Color, when a man reaches orgasm within one minute of penetration. And while a lot of guys might assume that they have premature ejaculation, what they really have, she says, is a simple lack of experience and skills.
But this isn’t something that a man should freak out over, and it's not a bad thing! Because if you’re just lacking in the knowledge of how to last longer in bed, then you can learn to turn it around and become the sort of lover that will have your partner lusting for you constantly.
So whether you suffer from premature ejaculation or just a lack of experience, don’t worry! These tips will help you dramatically improve your sex life, either way.
Here are 5 ways to help you make premature ejaculation a thing of the past:
1. Slow it way down!
One of the most important parts of learning to overcome your inability to perform for any serious duration is to teach yourself how to pace your pleasure during sex. And the best way to do this is to slow down and pay attention to what your body is telling you.
Because many people learn about the “stigma” of sex when they first become sexually active, it can be an activity that becomes rushed, whether it’s out of fear of getting caught, or simply because you’re used to hurrying. Teach yourself to take things slow and you’ll notice that you won’t any last longer, but it will feel better, too.
2. Learn to control the muscles more.
In the video above, Amy Color suggests that men try to “squeeze and twitch” their penises as a means of doing a male version of kegels. By practicing this kegel “squeeze and release,” you’ll gain a better control over yourself and your orgasms.
And the even better bonus? This will help keep your bladder muscles functioning into old age, too!
3. Don’t be afraid to get handsy!
Here's where you can get your partner involved. Ladies, by tugging on your man’s testicles, it will definitely cause him to slow down and keep from reaching climax. And for good reason, too!
According to Amy Color, one woman confessed that she did this with her husband, and it felt as though she was “pulling on his emergency brake.”
Don’t be too rough, though! The purpose is to slow him down — not injure him.
4. Pinching actually helps!
Another way partners can help is by gently squeezing beneath the head of yours penis, which may help keep you from ejaculating. However, warns Amy, this might also cause some men to climax, so practice and find out what works for you!
5. Just the tip, please!
Guys, when you are attempting penetration, only put in the tip of your penis and move very slowly. Then, take yourself out, and do it again. Repeat this step, and not only will you be lengthening the duration of intimacy with your partner, you’ll likely also be pleasuring them with this movement.
Your partner will appreciate that you know how to please them and also that you know how to take your time and focus on being a fantastic lover.
Whether you experience this or any other sexual issue, Amy Color would love to hear from you and to offer her help. You can contact her here.