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You know you're curious.
By Rebecca Jane Stokes — Written on Oct 02, 2021
Sometimes when I kiss a man, especially for the first couple of times, I feel like a fish riding a bicycle: sure, I'm going fast and enjoying the wind blowing through my scales or what have you, but also, oh my god I am a fish riding a bicycle what is happening!?
I think a huge part of that for me when it comes to kissing is trying to figure out where guys like to be touched when kissing and what they like when making out in general.
I know all of the different places I love to be touched and caressed during a nice makeout session, but it seems weird to assume that all of those places will also work on a man.
By and large, my kissing skills change depending on who I'm kissing.
If I were dating a man with a nice head of hair you can bet your sweet bippy that I'd be all over that with both hands when we were kissing. However, I'm dating a bald man, and while I love to grope at his scalp when we kiss (sounds weirder than it actually is, I promise) I also still find myself more than a year out exploring his head, face, neck, and torso, looking for spots to touch him when we're kissing.
In my continuing quest to be the best darn girlfriend I can be, I decided to cut out the middle man and stop randomly groping my boyfriend in a thoroughly unsexy way. I decided to ask guys where men like to be touched when they're kissing, and they were very happy to tell me.
One wanted to show me because guys are gross, but that's another story for another day. So if you've ever wanted to know where to touch a man when you're making out, read on!
Where Guys Say They Want To Be Touched When Kissing and What They Like When Making Out
1. Touch his hair.
“Run your hands through my hair.”
“I used to have long hair and her touching that was the best. Now I buzz my head and this is still the best.”
2. Touch his beard.
“Weirdly I love it when women fondle my beard when we kiss.”
3. Touch his face.
“The girl I was seeing last summer was the best kisser I have yet to meet. Don't think it was because of her technique, but the way she stroked my face when we made out. As lame as it sounds but it made me feel appreciated and loved/liked more than any tongue action could.”
“Grab my face with both of your hands and kiss me like you mean it.”
4. Touch his chest.
“My chest is a good spot.”
5. Touch his neck.
“Hand on the chest feels good. Men like to have their necks kissed, too.”
“I love when a woman puts her hands and the back of my head and neck area and pulls me in. It makes me feel like she wants me real bad and I like that.”
6. Touch his back.
“Touching my face, running fingers through my hair, running your hands anywhere on my body but arms, shoulders and back are great... pulling me closer to you and even a light scratching on the back.”
“One of my girlfriends discovered the back scratch. She scratched just at the base of the spine, in the lumbar region, with light grazing scratches. Gave me goosebumps every time.”
“Absolutely love when a girl runs her hands on my back under my shirt when kissing. That and just moving her hand on my stomach makes my whole body contract for some reason when I'm really in the mood.”
7. Touch his ears.
“I'm a weird guy, I like my ears fondled. The last girl that found that out took it to the next level.”
“Ears licked is good.”
“I like having my arms/chest/back felt up. And if a girl runs her hands through my hair or plays with my ears, I melt.”
8. Touch his butt.
“Just ... use your hands in general. Holding them in one spot is boring. Also. Please touch my butt.”
“An ass grab (if you really appreciate it) is always nice.”
9. Touch his arms.
“Everywhere. Just put your hands on me. Though I prefer when a girl runs her fingers up my arms to feel my torso and upper back.”
10. Touch his waist.
“My waist, put your hands in my hair and on my neck, kiss and bite my neck a little, butt, inner thigh.”
11. Touch him wherever you want to most.
“I think it's best to touch the places you like best on him. If you like his arms and shoulders, then run your hands over them. Everybody wants to feel sexy, and it comes through the most when you are appreciating him for what you like.”
12. Basically, everywhere is up for grabs.
“Just explore my body with your hands. There isn't a magic spot.”
“That soft touch on the chest is awesome. Playing with hair, arms around neck, touch the cheek are all good. For hotter action, I'd like butt and a gentle stroke up my belly and to my waist and down to the hips. It's like feeling your way around before going to the penis; foreplay.”
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Rebecca Jane Stokes is a humor and lifestyle writer living in Brooklyn, New York with her cat, Batman.