What Men Really Think Of The Hair On Your Arms, Legs, Face & More

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What Men Really Think Of The Hair On Your Arms, Legs, Face & More

I was walking down the street not too long ago with my friend Ben (his name is not Ben, but I just saw Gentle Ben so that's the name he's getting here, deal with it, etc, also GENTLE BEN IS A REAL TEAR JERKER).

We were talking about sex, love, and dating, the way you do when you're a straight cis-woman and a straight cis-man who genuinely don't want to have sex with each other.

Isn't it crazy how freeing it is when you have a friend of the opposite sex and you don't want to jump their bones? A whole knew world of questions open up to you, the kind you might never ask should even distantly dream of one day putting their turgid member inside of your mouth for the means of sexual pleasure.  

"What do you think of hairy women?" I asked him.

"Like, women with hair on their vaginas?" He asked. 

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I rolled my eyes. "A woman doesn't have hair 'on' her vagina, she has hair on her mons pubis," I corrected her, diligent sex nerd that I am. 

"I mean..." he trailed off and looked at me, a guilty expression in his eyes. I knew what was coming. My leftie, feminist, free-lovin' dude friend was trying to tell me that he didn't like his sexual partners to have pubic hair.

He was worried that confessing this would force me to summon my army of hairy, sex-positive women to beat him down, but that wasn't the case at all.

I get it, hair is a preference. Do I think it's a complicated issue, wrapped up with the patriarchy (my favorite word), porn, and the denuding of a woman's sexual power? Sure I do. But ultimately, I'm never one to yuck someone else's yum.

What REALLY got to me was what he said next.

"I once walked in on  my ex plucking her nipples and I was horrified. Like, hair grows there?" 

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So it turns out that pubes aren't the only hairy secret women work diligently to keep from men. Stray nipple hair, lip hairs, and god forbid those long and curly strands that can sneak up out of your nose, they exist, and what men think about them is a black hole to which I had never even thought to explore before. 

When I learned how grossed out Ben was by nipple hairs, I decided to ask what men think about hairy women. They were eager to weigh in, because they are men, and they are notorious for their opinions. 

So I asked: What do guys think about body hair on a woman? Not just pubes, all of it — nipple, armpit, face, etc. Are you a fan? If so, why? If not, why?

  • “Recently I was paging through an issue of Ink magazine, and a centerfold girl had hairy arms. Pale skin and black hair. And I found her to be very sexy!”
  • “Literally every guy I know would be turned off by torso fuzz. It's not that my friends are shallow or unintelligent or don't appreciate unique female beauty; my friends are phenomenal. Many of them even go to hippie festivals. They're the real deal in terms of loving someone for who they are. But there are just some things that guys almost uniformly don't like. It might not keep a small number from finding you sexually attractive, but almost all will prefer you to remove it.”
  • “I used to date a girl who had a hairy butt hole, which didn't bother me. She also liked anal sex, so her butt hole hair would lightly scrape on my penis when I was going in and out. It felt unbelievably good.”
  • “Female body hair is insignificant. My closest partner didn't shave legs, armpits, [pubic hair], nothing and it is okay. Just smell fresh and you're golden. Bonus points if you dye it! She dyed her armpits.”
  • “I've been with a few girls with hairy nipples, it was a turnoff for sure, but not enough of one to keep from getting down to business. When it comes to relationship though I always prefer there to be no hair down there.”
  • “ I prefer no hair anywhere but the head. A little landing strip can be ok. Butt hair is particularly gross to me.”
  • “My ex wouldn't shave her legs sometimes when she was too busy with work/school. It didn't grow that much and she would wear pants all the time when this happened. This, however, is an erection killer when you realize it when initiating sexy time. IMO women should shave (preferably wax) everything. Down there is acceptable to have a little bit, but not too much or too long.”
  • “Personally, i don't care about hair on the majority of the body.  i prefer my partner to be comfortable rather than conformist.  in fact, i prefer pubic hair over none.  I will admit that i don't like facial hair. It's prickly, and I can't grow a beard, so....yeah.”
  • “Honestly, if I'm close enough to see those hairs, I'm a thankful, happy man.”
  • “I'm not a fan of body hair on women. I am in favor of them doing whatever they want to with their bodies, but ideally I want a woman hairless below the eyelashes. Not that I'd ever say that, except in a kink scenario.”
  • "I don't like Sasquatch level hair on men or women. But 'regular' body hair on a woman never bothered me. When I see woman who have shaved, I view it like I do plastic surgery or animation: I think of the process more than the result."

  • "Mammals have hair. *shrug*"

  • "I guess I would say that it doesn't bother me one way or the other; I care more about how the young lady feels about herself and how comfortable she is in her own skin, especially if I can be an agent that helps increase said comfort. "

  • "My feelings are best described as benign indifference. I had a GF who would frequently apologize about not shaving her legs, and I was way more invested in her being comfortable with herself. I feel the same way about women who like to trim, shave, whatever — do (or refrain from doing) what makes you feel comfortable or attractive or whatever it is you want to feel. Aesthetically speaking, I like it all."

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  • "For her part (and this has been true of all my partners), she is not quite as consistent about similar grooming but always keeps her legs, pits and nipples pretty much hairless. I not only don't have problems with her less fastidious personal grooming, I (obviously) want her to be happy with her grooming regimen as well as her appearance and therefore delight in her doing as she sees fit. Side benefit: when she does decide to scorch the earth or go landing strip style it is often a surprise that I discover during foreplay and when you've been together for 15 years, surprises at that point in the process are really nice."

  • "Personally, i don't care about hair on the majority of the body. i prefer my partner to be comfortable rather than conformist. In fact, i prefer pubic hair over none. I will admit that I don't like facial hair. It is prickly and I can't grow a beard, so....yeah."

Rebecca Jane Stokes is a sex, humor and lifestyle writer living in Brooklyn, New York with her cat, Batman. She hosts the sex, love, and dating advice show Becca After Dark on YourTango's Facebook Page every Tuesday and Thursday. For more of her work, click here

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