35 Not Good Enough Quotes & Wise Sayings To Uplift You

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Relationships can be messy. And sometimes we enter into one thinking this will be great and that your partner can do no wrong. But the reality is, after the honeymoon stage has come and gone, your partner will start to show his true colors.

While some people are ready and mature enough for a relationship, there are plenty who shouldn’t be in a relationship ... for a while. But we also have to remember that it’s OK for men (and women) to not be ready for a relationship this very second of their life.

It’s even more important to know that their immaturity does not mean that you aren’t good enough, but when you do feel that way, these not good enough quotes will help you feel less alone.

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1. “Nothing will knock you down quicker than offering the best of yourself to someone and it still not being good enough.” — M.W Poetry

Take time to open up to people. You'll find some don't deserve you.

2. “I felt so much, that I started to feel nothing.”

Feeling inadequate can be too much pressure.

3. “I stopped talking about how I felt because I knew no one cared anyway.”

Someone will care.

4. “I guess I’m just not good enough for anyone. I can’t make anyone stay. I’m not even good enough for an explanation.”

You are good enough. They just didn't realize it.

5. “I’m sorry that nothing I do is good enough.”

Never apologize for something that isn't true.

6. “She questioned her own beauty because of him he left scars on her self esteem…” — r.h. sin

Your beauty is within you.

7. “And if you don’t like me, as I do you; I understand. Because who would really choose a daisy, in a field of roses?”

I would!

8. “I’m sorry I’m not what you wanted.”

We are not here to be wanted, we are here to be loved. There's a difference.

9. “At your absolute best, you still won’t be good enough for the wrong person.”

You are good enough for anyone; some just won't see it. And that's their fault.

10. “If I asked you to name all the things you love, how long would it take to name yourself?”

A human flaw.

11. “Sweetheart, the right guy will make you a priority. If you find yourself feeling like you’re not good enough, it’s because he’s not good enough.” — Steve Maraboli

Truth!

12. “Stop looking for happiness in the place you lost it.”

You should never have to feel those bad feelings ever again.

13. “I think the worst feeling in the world knowing that someone you used to talk to every day doesn’t care about you anymore.”

Well then, they aren't worth thinking about anymore.

14. “I am learning to love the sound of my feet walking away from things not meant for me.” — AG

It's a beautiful cadence of freedom!

15. “The way you speak of yourself / the way you degrade yourself / into smallness / is abuse.” — Rupi Kaur

Be kinder to yourself.

16. “I can’t even explain how I feel anymore, my thoughts are so messed up in my head that I don’t even understand them.”

Maybe because you never did anything wrong in the first place.

17. “Rejection doesn’t mean you aren’t good enough; it means the other person failed to notice what you have to offer.”

Amen!

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18. “My problem wasn't not being good enough. My problem was thinking I had to be.”

You don't have to be good enough for a person who was never good enough for you.

19. “Self-doubt is the anchor that keeps our ships from sailing.”

Reel in that anchor!

20. “Don’t allow someone to make you feel like you’re not good enough.”

You are good enough.

21. "The person that tries to keep everyone happy often ends up feeling the loneliest."

Can't please everyone.

22. "Sometimes all you can do is lie in your bed, and hope to fall asleep before you fall apart."

But the morning always brings new possibilities.

23. "Who do you turn to when the only person in the world that can stop you from crying is exactly the one making you cry?"

You can always be that person to make yourself happy.

24. "Tears are the words the heart can't say." 

But they don't have to be the only words.

25. "I don't think people understand how stressful it is to explain what's going on in your head when you don't even understand it yourself."

But you can get help no matter how confusing it is.

26. "I hate that I'm still hoping."

But hope is always stronger than fear.

27. "Today I realized you don't care anymore. And then I realized, you probably never did anyway. And the saddest part of it all is that you made me believe you did." 

But you can be your own support system, you are strong enough.

28. "The worst feeling ever is when you're crying in silence because you don't want anyone to know you are."

Don't be afraid to ask for help.

29. "Today my forest is dark. The trees are sad and all the butterflies have broken wings."

You can be the light that brightens it all.

30. "Who hurt you? My own expectations."

Expectations do not dictate you.

31. "It's not always just the heart. Sometimes you mind breaks as well." -r.h. Sin 

But it is never fully broken.

32. "When she is happy she can't stop talking. When she is sad, she doesn't say a word."

Sad doesn't have to be forever.

33. "Sick of crying, tired of trying, yes I'm smiling but inside I'm dying."

It doesn't have to be that way.

34. "Have you ever been so sad that it physically hurts inside?"

You can get help to make yourself feel better.

35. "Sometimes all you can do is smile. Move on with your day, hold back the tears, and pretend you're okay."

You can find help and you can be really okay.

Why will I never be good enough for him?

I think we all have a friend — or maybe you feel like it's you — who continually gets into a relationship with the wrong person, and who’s to blame her? It’s extremely hard to tell a person’s intentions from a couple of dates.

When, once again, she gets let down by a guy, she often questions herself and her self-worth when, in reality, she should be questioning what was wrong with her partner.

This can be a hard task for anyone. We would all much rather pick ourselves apart and bring ourselves down than admit that we picked a bad apple for a boyfriend. And while it’s completely valid to have sad thoughts about ourselves, it’s important to know that a breakup is not a result of “not being good enough.”

It’s just not! It’s much more complicated than that, and more than likely has more to do with the guy’s issues than yours.

When taking a step back from the situation, you’ll find a couple of things to be true: Your grieving process will most likely start with lots of crying and some hurtful thoughts that put the blame on you. This is normal and will be corrected by step 2.

After you cry a lot, you will start to replay his actions through your head. Slowly you will come to see that he had some issues of his own.

Of course, no breakup or rejection is as simple as these two steps. But if you begin to put blame on yourself because of who you are then the relationship wasn’t worth it in the first place.

No one, and I mean absolutely no one, should be making you feel like you are not good enough for them. Girl, you were too much greatness for him to handle and he was too cowardly to admit it.

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Shelby Henderson is a frequent contributor to YourTango.