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The stars know what he's trying to tell you.
By Christine Schoenwald — Written on Dec 15, 2016
It takes skill and talent to decipher a man’s mixed signals. No matter how you may try to avoid them, we all have had to interpret the confusing behavior of a guy we’re dating.
One minute he can’t get enough of you and the next he’s not answering your texts. You could understand if he was emotionally unavailable at the start, but he was very warm and seemed extremely open to you.
Is he just playing it cool or is he merely benching you, keeping you on the hook in case something better comes along? Trying to figure out what those mixed signals can mean may make your head explode in confusion.
No one wants to be someone’s time filler and you certainly don’t want to invest your time and energy in someone who has no intention of ever committing. But if you never get any consistent behavior out of them, how will you ever know?
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Men often complain that they’re not mind-readers. Well, dudes, neither are we. We can play the game if we know that it’s a game we’re playing, and not responding to some random action or emotion.
Mixed signals from men are very commonplace. Sometimes it seems as if they invented them. You have to wonder if he’s been flirty or flaky and how long is too long to invest in someone who has the behavior pattern of being insanely jealous mixed with completely indifferent.
Wouldn’t it be kinder for him to just let you know if he wasn’t that into you or wasn’t ready for a serious relationship?
The first step is to not let those mixed signals get to you. You can care about someone and want to have a relationship with them, investing everything you’ve got into figuring out what their behavior really means. Here’s the type of mixed signals he’s sending you, based on his zodiac sign.
Aries (March 21 - April 19)
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Aries will go cold after a few really good dates. This behavior usually indicates that you're not the only one that he's dating or that he was dating you while on a break with his girlfriend. If you didn't do anything strange and he started to pull away and ignore you, it's obvious that there's someone else in the picture. Aries like the thrill of the chase and they definitely like to keep their options open.
Read: The 13 Brutal Truths About Loving An Aries, As Written By One
Taurus (April 20 - May 20)
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If days go by without any communication, don't lose heart; this could mean that the Taurus man really likes you. Taurus are notorious for taking their time when they do anything, especially when it comes to relationships. He may just want to be sure of his feelings. He also doesn't want to seem desperate so he's acting cool to show that you don't mean that much to him; in actuality, you're already beginning to mean the world to him.
Read: The 5 Brutal Truths About Loving A Taurus, As Written By One
Gemini (May 21 - June 20)
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The frustrating thing that a Gemini man can do is to be flirty with everyone else when you're out together and just flirty with you when you're alone. Geminis are extremely social, and sometimes they can get so caught up in their social persona that they forget who they came to the event with — namely, you. Remind him that he needs to impress you just much as any random party guest.
Read: The 13 Brutal Truths About Loving A Gemini, As Written By One
Cancer (June 21 - July 22)
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The Cancer man has a whole bunch of mixed signals that he employs such as ignoring your texts and phone calls. The truth is very simple: he doesn't want to get hurt and is using them as a defensive mechanism.
Read: The 5 Brutal Truths About Loving A Cancer, As Written By One
Leo (July 23 - August 22)
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Leo will say that he just wants to be friends but will still flirt with you. It's very confusing when his words don't match his actions, but he probably just wants the attention to feel better about himself and to prove that there are a ton of women out there that would do anything to date him.
Virgo (August 23 - September 22)
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Is your Virgo acting moody around you and you don't know what to make of it? He's probably trying to cover up that he doesn't know how to act around you, so it just comes across as awkward. He's not the type to just tell you his feelings, so somehow you're supposed to pick up on them from his mood swings.
Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving A Virgo (As Written By A Virgo)
Libra (September 23 - October 22)
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A Libra man may play hard to get as a way to encourage you to be assertive and put yourself out there. He wants you to make the first move as that's less scary to him than be rejected.
Read: 11 Brutal Truths About Loving A Libra, As Written By One
Scorpio (October 23 - November 21)
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A Scorpio man's go-to mixed signal is to tell you he's not ready for a relationship but that one never knows what might happen in the future. He doesn't want to lie to you, so either he's not ready for a relationship or he doesn't think you're the one. He likes you but he doesn't want to give you any false hope.
Read: 14 Brutal Truths About Loving A Scorpio, As Written By One
Sagittarius (November 22 - December 21)
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It's hard to interpret when a Sagittarius man is up for going clubbing with you or will text you funny things to know if he's interested in something more. He probably likes hanging out with you and enjoys the fun side of a relationship, but he's not interested in introducing you to his friends or family. He loves his single life and settling down isn't on his list of things to do right now.
Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving A Sagittarius, As Written By One
Capricorn (December 22 - January 19)
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Capricorns are big on control and he exerts this by controlling the situation by always saying things like, "I'll call you" or "I'll let you know." Let him know that you don't have the time to sit around waiting for him to call. You've got important things to do and goals to accomplish. If he can't step up, he's not the one for you.
Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving A Capricorn, As Written By One
Aquarius (January 20 - February 18)
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Does your Aquarius man only want to hang out with you together with friends? The truth is you aren't a priority right now. He has causes to fight for or a career to get off the ground. Love just isn't the main thing on his mind.
Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving An Aquarius, As Written By One
Pisces (February 19 - March 20)
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One of the ways that Pisces send mixed signals is that it takes them a while to make a romantic move and if he hasn't made a move yet, it doesn't mean that he's not interested, he just doesn't want to ruin your friendship. Chances are good that whenever he shows interest in you, he immediately backpedals in case you aren't feeling the same way. Pisces are sensitive and need to protect their hearts at all cost.
Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving A Pisces, As Written By One