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You're worth the effort.
By Christine Schoenwald — Written on Dec 15, 2016
You’re cautious. Well, you have to be; you’ve had your heart broken a time or two and you’d prefer not to have it happen again. Although you aren't a pushover and it’s not impossible to win your heart, a potential partner must prove that they’re worthy of it.
Winning your heart sounds old-fashioned — as if someone must fight for you in a duel or must do an act of bravery, but it’s not that complicated; it’s just a matter of getting your attention and not being a douche when they have it. Some men just don't know how to impress a girl.
You’re not going to spend the time and energy it takes to develop a relationship with anybody who hasn’t proven to you that they aren’t just using you.
Sometimes, it’s the things and people that we have to work for that end up being more meaningful in our lives. That’s not to say that something that’s easy is a bad thing; easy can be great!
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No one wants a relationship that’s constant agony and work. You know that a solid, healthy relationship is enough work already, so you want to make sure that the person you’re considering being with has what it takes to be a good partner and that they’re not just out for themselves and a good time.
When getting to know someone, it’s a good idea to not just take them at face value or by what they say they’re like. The best way to judge them is by their actions and to read between the lines of what they say.
Instant relationships can work sometimes, but often, it’s the people who have proven themselves that end up being the people we wish to be with. It’s not that you’re extremely hard to win over, it’s that you’re careful and you don’t want to jump into something that will end in disaster. That’s not being overly choosy, that’s being smart.
Here’s why it’s so hard to win you over, based on your zodiac sign.
Aries (March 21 - April 19)
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You don't have a whole lot of patience and you're rarely in one place for long, so if someone wants to win you over they're going to have act quickly and get out and do something. You'll only notice them when they're in competition with you or are doing something exciting that catches your eye.
Read: The 13 Brutal Truths About Loving An Aries, As Written By One
Taurus (April 20 - May 20)
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You have a very hard exterior that protects your soft and gooey insides, so it can be challenging for someone to get to know you. They also have no idea that you're trying to decide if they're trustworthy enough for you to let them in.
Read: The 5 Brutal Truths About Loving A Taurus, As Written By One
Gemini (May 21 - June 20)
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You've had your fair share of dates and nothing gets past you, so if a person isn't on their A-game, they won't have what it takes to really grab your attention. They need to appeal to your intellect and be able to communicate consistently for you to bother with them.
Read: The 13 Brutal Truths About Loving A Gemini, As Written By One
Cancer (June 21 - July 22)
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You're very caring and nurturing, so it's likely that you've been burned before and you will do anything to avoid it happening again. To win you over, they're going to have to prove that they won't mess with your emotions or hurt you. Once emotionally burned, you're extremely guarded against it happening a second time.
Read: The 5 Brutal Truths About Loving A Cancer, As Written By One
Leo (July 23 - August 22)
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You are fabulous and everyone knows it, and while many people think they're close to you, most aren't. It takes a lot for you to be completely relaxed and yourself with someone. To see the real you, a person must show that they're accepting of your flaws and imperfections.
Virgo (August 23 - September 22)
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You're very smart and reliable and that's what you want in the people in your life. To win you over, somebody must keep their promises, show up when they say they will, and never flake on you.
Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving A Virgo (As Written By A Virgo)
Libra (September 23 - October 22)
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You're amazing, and if you want to be friends with anybody you have no trouble winning them over. Since you're so gifted at relationships, you go back and forth about who you allow to be your friend. If they respect your need for harmony, then they're moving in the right direction.
Read: 11 Brutal Truths About Loving A Libra, As Written By One
Scorpio (October 23 - November 21)
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You absolutely can't stand a player, so if someone wants to be with you, they need to show you that they want you, both body and soul. You're not a chill person and you don't make it easy for anyone to get close to you, but once they manage to prove to you that they're sincere, they'll see that no one loves deeper or is more passionate than you are.
Read: 14 Brutal Truths About Loving A Scorpio, As Written By One
Sagittarius (November 22 - December 21)
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There's nothing you hate more than someone who is stagnant and boring. If all somebody wants to do is hang out at home watching TV, they're not for you. To win you over, a potential suitor or friend must show you how vibrant and excited about the world they are. If they can keep you wondering what happens next, all the better.
Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving A Sagittarius, As Written By One
Capricorn (December 22 - January 19)
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You don't like it when somebody talks the talk but can't or won't walk the walk. You trust action over words, so to get past your distrust you need them to show you that they're in it for the long haul.
Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving A Capricorn, As Written By One
Aquarius (January 20 - February 18)
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You're very individualistic and proud of it. You don't want anybody in your life who is going to judge you for the unorthodox choices you make. If someone wants to be in your inner circle, they're going to have to prove to you that they're open-minded and accepting.
Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving An Aquarius, As Written By One
Pisces (February 19 - March 20)
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You enjoy being alone. You don't get bored because, in your imagination, you can do anything or go anywhere. You don't have an excess of people in your life so your bar is raised high as far as potential friends and partners go. To win you over, they're going to have to interest you which can be challenging.
Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving A Pisces, As Written By One