The Dating Struggles Of Being An Alpha Female

We're a force to be reckoned with.

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Being an alpha female is, for the most part, pretty awesome. I know this because I am one.

We're wildly independent, ferociously driven and we favor passion over tender romanticizing. We're also incredibly stubborn, hard-headed, opinionated, and can be intimidating or misjudged by men. This makes our dating lives more of a challenge to navigate.

We're not your typical submissive and doting partners  we're a challenge. For this reason, finding a man who can handle and understand the traits we carry is much harder. These are the real struggles of being an alpha female in the dating world.


1. We have smart mouths.

We're wildly sarcastic about nearly everything and anything we can make light of. We're not afraid to make sexual innuendos or express opinions that aren't typically "ladylike," because screw that. This comes across as bitchy to the men whose balls aren't big enough to date us, or sleazy to men who think we're signalling for sex.

2. We aren't afraid to speak our minds.

We don't hesitate to say exactly how we feel about something, even if it means we tell a guy straight up that we don't like the sh*tty thing they said or did, or how we feel about a certain controversial issue. Unfortunately, they would prefer that we dance around their behaviors and remain delicate instead to feel maximum masculinity.


3. We take the lead, and that makes most men run.

An alpha female knows exactly what she wants and doesn't hesitate to go for it. We'll ask you out first, kiss you first and unbutton our blouses first when the mood is right. We need a man who can handle this, and not feel emasculated by it.

Not only do we take charge on matters of intimacy, but we're the kind of girlfriends who'll get sh*t done  whether it's booking a trip or planning the most kick ass Super Bowl party you've ever had, complete with kegs and steak sandwiches.

4. We're unfazed by cliché romance.

The alpha female favors passion over romance. While flowers are sweet and all, we would rather be greeted with long, passionate kisses in the hallway, leading to something a little more creative than vanilla dates and sack sessions.