It's the time-worn story, girl loves her friend and then messes things up.
Since the dawn of time, women have been falling in love with their best boyfriends and then royally screwing it up. Some historians hypothisize that this is why Rome fell, because Athena really thought she and and Pallas were soulmates, but she just didn't know how to make it happen. And then things got messy, because Pallas started dating Aphrodite and Athena tried to stop the wedding, but her gay BFF, Aries, told her to let him go. So she did, but in her wrath she burned the city to the ground. (Note: No historians actually think this.)
Or something like that. But can we be straight and all agree that that would have been a WAY better plot for My Best Friend's Wedding? Amirite? Can I get an internet "amen"?
So, is this normal? Yes, since time immemorial. Women have ben falling for their BFFs. And then been all like, "BAHWHATDOIDO?" When the answer is really quite simple. You say, "Let's go out."
Betsy recently wrote in with exactly this problem. She writes (get you're reading glasses on, it's long): "We have acknowledge in the past that we are probably made for each other, we are mirror images of each other physically, emotionally and mentally..finishing each other's sentences, loving and hating the same things, having similar views on life as quirky and weird as they are etc. We live in a small town, and everyone says we should be together, and it should have happened a long time ago. We dated in our early 20s lost contact, found each other in our 30s and started hanging out as friends. I had broken up with my ex, and he was single. Before getting intimate, we did not discuss dating seriously, but he dropped a bunch of hints about it, but I realize I just wasn't ready at the time.
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