10 Ways Women's Turn-Ons Change As They Age

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10 Ways Women's Turn-Ons Change As They Age

We all have our own specific turn-ons and turn-offs. But what you may not have known is that what turns us on and what turns us off can change with time. Yes, our turn-ons and turn-offs do not stay the same forever. 

So, ladies, while older definitely does mean wiser, that doesn't just apply to your intellectual prowess — it also applies to your taste in potential partners, too. That's right, what turned you on at 25 will probably not be the same as what turns you on at 45. 

How do we know this? Because, back in 2011, YourTango teamed up with and to determine what the true power of attraction in relationships is at every stage in life.

So, how do a woman's turn-ons and turn-offs change as they age?

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In the survey of more than 20,000 people, we found that 90 percent of people believe that a relationship's fading flame can be rekindled. But it's exactly how men and women fuel the fire that provided the most interesting results.

For women, 77.7 percent of them had said that the qualities that they seek in a potential partner had changed as they had aged. But exactly how had they changed? And what are these qualities that women found to be more attractive when they were younger and less attractive when they were older? 

With the wisdom that age can often bring us, our list of turn-offs seems to mature right along with it.

Here are the top 10 turn-offs that become increasingly unappealing to women as they grow older:

  1. Lack of drive/ambition
  2. Immaturity/childishness
  3. Lack of romantic love
  4. Lack of intelligence
  5. Narcissism/lack of empathy
  6. Boredom/lack of adventure
  7. Lack of bedroom skills
  8. Racist or prejudice ideologies
  9. Extreme views on religion
  10. Poor personal hygiene

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But getting older also comes with having a new, sophisticated set of turn-ons, catered more to maturity and a need to be stimulated both mentally and physically.

According to our survey, as women age, these are the top 10 turn-ons that become increasingly important:

  1. Communication skills
  2. Listening skills
  3. Kindness
  4. Intelligence
  5. Sense of humor
  6. Ambition
  7. In a similar life stage
  8. Sexual prowess
  9. Altriusm
  10. Location (close enough to see daily)

In short, an immature, unintelligent man without drive, passion, or a sense of adventure (and that's both in the bedroom and in the world, by the way) is a definite turn-off. And especially so if he is racist, and if he smells.

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But give us a partner who can hold a conversation, who can make us laugh out loud, and who is on our level — in terms of maturity, intelligence and sexual spirit—and man, we're set.

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Kait Smith is an editor, writer, social media manager, higher education professional, and graduate student; the list goes on and on. Visit her website for more.

Editor's Note: This article was originally posted in May 2011 and was updated with the latest information.

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