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What makes a woman wanted by men?
By brian fairbanks — Written on Dec 05, 2022
Women know what they want — they just don't know always how to tell us, men.
As a rule, one thing women don't want is this guy: Jack McJerkface.
While irresistible women will likely still attract the McJerks, she'll also attract Mr. Perfects.
There's a lot of conflicting dating and pickup advice out there: play hard to get, don't play hard to get, be yourself, be a sports fan, be sexy but still down to earth... the list goes on.
But here are 9 qualities men love and find irresistible in women:
1. You have a shining sense of humor.
One of the easiest (and surprisingly least-practiced) methods of convincing us we made the right choice in talking to you is when you respond to our jokes instead of simply laughing at them.
If you're hee-hawing at our wisecracks, wonderful — just make sure you don't leave a dead silence at the end of each one or we're going to think you're expecting a stand-up routine.
We want a woman who's our conversation partner, not just an adoring fan.
2. You don't immediately fall in love
As the law of supply and demand goes, we want to crave your attention before we get it.
Once we have it, though, it's nice to be reminded that you only have eyes for us.
3. You don't overly obsess about your wardrobe.
If you spend most of your time and energy on clothes and shoes, we may suspect you're a bit superficial.
Can we not sit around in our underwear once in a while if we're feeling depressed?
We like a woman who minds her appearance but who also knows that being attractive is more about confidence than owning Manolo Blahniks.
4. You're healthy, but not a health nut
Obviously, men dig a woman with a kickin' body, but not if it means she spends more time in the gym than she does with us.
Likewise, we'll forgive you for eating a salad on a first date but not every date for the rest of our lives.
Remember men like real bodies.
5. You're extremely down to earth.
The type of attention a drama queen demands from men isn't the sort of genuine, will-love-you-forever attention women deserve.
We like a woman who forgives the occasional stupid move.
If we say the wrong thing in a casual conversation and it wasn't racist or an otherwise idiotic remark, she remembers that, as humans, we're going to disagree with at least 25 percent of everything anybody says.
And so, she lets it go.
6. You don't feel the need to stalk on social media
Where do you want this relationship to go? If you answer, "I'm not sure" or anything other than "to the friend zone with you!" then you shouldn't be friending us on Facebook until it's established that we're more than chummy.
I recently had to unfriend two women I dated because they friended me before we ever went out and it didn't work out with either. Don't make us the bad guys.
7. You have the decency to return phone calls
I know it seems like calling a woman is no big deal because we're grown men, but every time we dial a number for the first time, we're terrified that one of the following things will happen: you won't remember us, or we have to think of something witty to say on your voicemail.
Unless we were total jerks to you (in which case you shouldn't have given us your real number), call us back ASAP.
8. You're passionate, but not a zealot
It's inspirational when anyone is really into something.
Whether it's a cause, a hobby, or a job, seeing what gets a lady fired up makes her more attractive (unless it's dog fighting). But zeal does have its limits.
Fifty hours of work per week plus another fifty hours of decoupage doesn't leave much time for dating or finding new passions as a couple.
9. You have friends
While approaching a gaggle of gals is a little intimidating, dating the lone she-wolf is even scarier.
It's nice to know that we can spend some guy time or alone time and not have someone lonely, disappointed, and thinking of revenge for this slight.
Plus, maybe one of your friends will like one of our friends, and who doesn't like people helping people?
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Brian Fairbanks is a contributor to Yourtango who writes about love, dating, and relationships.