People With Zero Boundaries Complain About 6 Things Almost Constantly
KaterynaUKR / Shutterstock People who don't have any boundaries are often known as the people-pleasers of the world. They struggle to set and maintain boundaries with just about everyone, and as a result, they complain about specific problems they're more likely to have than people who are able to be more assertive.
While it's understandable to struggle with enforcing boundaries at times, it's a vital skill to practice for the sake of your own well-being. These complaints can feel mind-numbing after a while to both the person who has them and those who have to listen to them over and over.
People who have zero boundaries complain about these things all the time.
1. Not being treated fairly.
Life comes with all sorts of disappointments, and that's why it's important to have loved ones you can vent to when some things inevitably don't go your way. However, people with zero boundaries almost never stop complaining about how they're being treated unfairly, even in situations where setting boundaries would help them level the playing field.
They may constantly give in to an entitled coworker or let their closest friends walk all over them, and then there's really no end to the complaining they do about it. It's true that people should never treat others unfairly, but setting boundaries is one of the key ways to limit the extent to which that happens to you or at least address the problem before it gets worse.
2. Feeling bad all of the time.
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People without boundaries are always complaining about how bad they feel about disappointing others or not being perfect. It seems like these people complain about how bad they feel about every little potential grievance.
This is where having the ability to set boundaries comes into play, as doing so sets the bar for how you expect to be treated. Once you communicate to someone your capacity to sympathize with them or contribute to solving a problem together, you really don't have to worry about disappointing them. Any problem they have with you after that is on them and not you.
3. Wishing they'd stayed home.
Even if this person claims to be your friend, their struggle to maintain boundaries ends up inadvertently hurting others. This is the friend who acts all excited to go out and have fun. Then, once they're out, because they didn't voice their preference for staying home, they complain about how they don't want to be where they are and that they should have listened to their instincts.
They go along with what other people want to do at their own expense and are more comfortable complaining about it after the fact than they are just saying what they want in the first place. If you want to stay home, just say it. It'll save everyone else the time and energy they have to spend listening to your complaints about things you wanted to do that you never expressed to anyone else.
4. People who overstep their boundaries.
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This complaint is truly exhausting. People with zero boundaries are often the ones complaining about how bad they are at setting boundaries. They'll vent about how much they struggle with this skill, which is fair considering we all probably struggle with it at some point.
However, there comes a point where you have to stop complaining about how bad you are at doing something, especially an emotional skill, and actively work to improve it. Even the most compassionate person can only listen for so long before they start to wonder what the point is in venting about something if you're not going to try to fix it.
5. Being exhausted from trying to meet other people's demands.
Dealing with people can be absolutely draining, so maintaining boundaries is essential to protecting one's peace as much as possible. People without boundaries are often the ones who are bending over backward for other people because they don't know when or how to say no before it's too late.
As a consequence, they complain about how exhausted they are all of the time. They're the first to vent about how people are always taking advantage of their kindness when, in reality, other people aren't aware of how much it's taking a toll on them because they haven't said anything.
6. Never having time for themselves.
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Finally, people who don't have boundaries are rarely able to carve out time for themselves because they genuinely feel guilty doing so. As a result, they complain all of the time about how they never have any time where they can just be by themselves and relax for a while.
In such an extroverted world, you have to be intentional about setting aside alone time. Otherwise, it's easy to get looped into other people's business, and before you know it, you haven't had a quiet moment to yourself in days. Once you learn how to set boundaries, though, it makes getting alone time much easier, and you realize it's truly a necessity.
Luke Aliga is a writer with a degree in Technical Writing and Communication who covers relationships, culture, and human-interest topics.
