10 Things People Notice Immediately When Meeting An Emotionally Mature Person
When you meet a truly emotionally mature person, it can be shocking.
Dean Drobot | Canva When you meet a truly emotionally mature person, it can be shocking. After all, too many of us are stuck in a cycle of blame and escape rather than accountability and responsibility. If you are used to immaturity and chaos, you might even find the emotionally mature person to be boring, but give them a chance. Often, they have a lot to teach us.
After all, life has a funny way of showing us where we need to change. It shows us how beautiful doing things differently can be at times. But if we don't mature and adapt to our lives, we won't get to truly see those moments. It is way more worth it to go through some bad times to get to the good. There is always a light at the end of the darkness. And growing up allows us to see all of those bright moments.
10 things people notice immediately when meeting an emotionally mature person
1. Emotionally mature people understand the world better
If you're an emotionally mature person, you don’t have as many questions as you did when you first stepped into your 20s. You are slowly understanding how life works. You are finally realizing that the world isn’t unfair.
You get back what you put out there. You get what you deserve based solely on the level of effort that you’re willing to give. No one gets to be successful by just sitting all day long. You know that working hard is the only thing that will help you get what you want in life.
When others meet an emotionally mature person, they can see a wisdom in their eyes. Emotionally mature people can see the bigger picture, the grand scheme and how nothing is black and white.
2. They don't blame others for their own mistakes
If you're an emotionally mature person, you understand that you are who you are because of the decisions that you’ve made. There are indeed infinite things that are out of your control, but how you react to them and how you handle them ultimately define you as a person.
Blaming other people for the problems that you encounter will not make you feel better. Maturity means owning your mistakes and apologizing wholeheartedly when you did something wrong.
When people meet an emotionally mature person, they immediately start noticing accountability and a broader understanding of how every choice leads to outcomes, good or bad.
3. They take good care of themselves
Emotionally mature people know that everyone’s pretty much stressed out — some of humans are just good at being quiet about it. Yes, there will be a few people who will be kind enough to share their time to help you, but you’re fully aware that they can’t be there with you all the time.
If you're emotionally mature, you know that it has to be on you to take care of you.
4. They are patient
If you are emotionally mature, you understand that being frustrated with the pace of life gets you nowhere. Gone are the days when being stuck in a queue makes you want to scream. You’re finally accepting that you will always find yourself surrounded by so many people, no matter where you go.
Breathing helps you calm down when your patience is being put to the test. Acknowledging that you have to go through the same process, without any kind of special treatment, like everybody else, makes you grounded and less frustrated.
When others meet an emotionally mature person, they often remark on how chill or cool they are, even when things go wrong. That's because patience is a key feature of emotional maturity and it's almost instantly recognizable.
5. They're more responsible with their money
If you're emotionally mature, you know that money can come ... and it can go. You know that your value as a person isn't based on money, but you also see that it makes life more comfortable and adds security. The realization that earning money is not a total joke sinks into your consciousness when you are emotionally mature.
When people meet someone who is emotionally mature, they often notice a lack of flashy spending. That's because insecure, immature people often use money and fancy labels as a substitute for self-esteem. Once you find your emotional security, you know that money helps you buy things — but it will never help you buy happiness or true respect from others.
6. They tend to value meaningful relationships more
If you're emotionally mature, you know it's not the number of relationships that you have out there in the world that matters to you, but the quality of relationships that you have with people around you.
As you grow older, you slowly lose friends, either because you’ve outgrown them or because of uncontrollable circumstances. At first, you don’t understand why the people who once made you so happy eventually become strangers to you. But as time goes by, you’re learning that everyone you meet isn’t just meant to be part of your life for eternity, no matter how you want them to be.
When others meet an emotionally mature person, they notice a wisdom that comes from not trying to force every relationship to be serious or forever. Knowing that some relationships are temporary shows real maturity and allows that person to value their most important ones most. And that is something others notice and value, too.
7. They're smarter when it comes to love
Wisdom is as important as feelings when it comes to choosing the person that emotionally mature people want to be in a relationship with. Physical attractions fade after quite some time, but the good qualities and virtues of a person will forever stay in people's memories.
Emotionally mature people fall in love more with the skills and talents of a person rather than his or her outer appearance. If you're emotionally mature, you see yourself having a long-term relationship with someone who respects you and promises to never betray you. Life is too short for you to invest your emotions in a relationship that is built solely on fun.
8. They stop playing games with people
People who are emotionally mature won't play cat-and-mouse with anyone. They become more honest with how they feel and think, and immediately inform someone when something is wrong or when something isn’t working out.
If you're emotionally mature, you believe that telling the truth will save you and the other person valuable time. Guessing what someone feels towards a certain issue doesn’t — and will never — solve anything in the end. And that is something others notice about you right away.
9. They opt for better choices
If you're emotionally mature, you probably lean towards the decision that is going to be beneficial for you in the long run. You are not the kind of person anymore who answers too quickly when being offered an opportunity. You list all the pros and cons before making a final decision, and commit yourself to choosing the better option.
Others notice right away that emotionally mature people take their time to think things over. They aren’t afraid to say no when they believe something isn’t good for them, no matter what other people are doing.
10. They make their own happiness
Emotionally mature people know that when they feel bad, it's up to them to solve it — or at least make the changes that will help them feel better.
If you're emotionally mature, you pause for a moment, breathe, and remind yourself that you’re strong when times get tough. Or, you ask for help. .
Others notice right away that emotionally mature people want to be responsible for their own happiness because they no longer blame others when they're not happy. It's a startling difference to see someone change plans when they realize something wasn't the right choice, without blaming others. in a society filled with people looking to blame others for their misery, the emotionally intelligent, mature and responsible person stands out in a crowd.
Angelo Caerlang is a former digital media writer, contributor to YourTango and Thought Catalog, and published author of "Sparks in Broken Lights."
