The Art Of Being Unbothered: 7 Simple Ways To Be A Stronger Person
Eduard Labar | Unsplash Inner strength is something you nurture, daily, like anything else that keeps you alive. You have all you need to successfully find your inner strength and grow it. It is the well that enlivens you from deep inside, and you can find it by stopping to listen with awe to your heartbeat.
Being unbothered through life's chaos comes from tending to that well inside you. It takes time, attention, and a willingness to stay present even when your mind wants to replay the past or race toward the future. Building resilience is fully within your reach, one small step at a time. Here are seven simple ways to start.
Here are 7 simple ways to be a stronger person:
1. Recognize your desire
To begin, recognize that you have a desire to feel resilient, inspired, grounded, and stable through the storms of life. Recognition alone of this desire can be humbling for some, as it requires the admission that they are not always on their game. If this is your case, you are not alone. In fact, life's challenges call us all, bar none, to search for our inner strength.
Research shows that self-awareness is a precursor to resilience, with the most resilient individuals demonstrating a clear understanding of both their strengths and limitations. Acknowledging your desire for growth, even when it feels vulnerable, activates the same neural pathways associated with emotional regulation and adaptive coping.
2. Accept gaining strength as a gradual process
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Accept that inner strength is less an accomplishment and more a power to be nourished daily. Consider it part of what makes you alive. And nothing lives without consistent nourishment. Inner strength nourishment is made up of time, attention, challenge, and success.
Resilience is best understood as a dynamic process rather than a fixed personality trait, one that shifts with time and context. A 2024 study confirms that resilience develops through repeated interactions between inner strength and external challenges, not through a single breakthrough moment.
3. Give it time
Even though time is of the essence in this day and age, there is always time to nourish our inner strength. It is one of the most important things we do, and it does not have to take long.
Research from The Center on the Developing Child at Harvard found that resilience depends on mastering a set of capabilities that require consistent practice and supportive relationships over time. Even brief daily interventions like mindfulness, journaling, or reflection have been shown to strengthen the neural circuits responsible for emotional regulation and stress recovery.
4. Pay attention
Life and lessons are in the now. Meaning and purpose are in the present. At some point, it becomes too late to change the results of your day-to-day decision-making. When there is no more time, you reap what you sow. Most of us are distracted from living now by recycling past events and emotions and preparing for the future.
5. Release the shackles of your past
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Until you fully come to terms with your past, it will haunt your present and future. There is great value in the processing of the past for the purpose of living in the present and to allow you to fearlessly harness your power towards the realization of your purpose.
At a deeper level, it becomes a sequential act of personal transformation, the release of the echo of trauma, a metamorphosis from chrysalid to butterfly, a manifestation of the essence of self, pouring forth freely with grace, inspired and grounded.
6. Feel your power and find your purpose
This is the path less traveled. For most, it requires courage, humility, collaboration, and even surrender and faith. At this point, you begin to grasp who you are. Your purpose surfaces of its own accord as it acts on you as a magnet. Your inner strength becomes the well from which you live, riding the waves of life with a sense of peace and resilience previously unfathomable.
A study published in 2013 found that having a sense of purpose in life actually predicts better emotional recovery from negative experiences at a biological level. The research also shows that individuals who hold a sense of purpose and a future-focused mindset report greater life satisfaction.
7. Honor and celebrate it by fulfilling your purpose
You realize that you simply cannot control all the variables of life, but you find within yourself the inner strength to go forward through the rain and be more grateful for the sun. You are able to focus more on the present and allow the future to unfold.
Propelled by inner strength, you live purposefully with grace, inspired and grounded. Taking the time to find and grow your inner strength makes your life, and the world, a better place.
Lisa Torres is a freelance writer and studies homeopathy. She is dedicated to helping people heal safely, gently, and deeply, taking into account the mind, the body, and the emotions.
