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There's magic in letting go.
By NyRee Ausler — Written on Dec 17, 2022
No doubt you’ve seen your fair share of information on how to use the law of attraction to manifest what you want out of life. But there is another equally effective way to get what you want out of life.
Being okay if something happens and okay if it doesn’t is a powerful place to be. This is what is referred to as the Law of Detachment.
What is the Law of Detachment?
The Law of Detachment dictates that we should detach from the outcome and trust the universe to provide what it is that we desire.
It says that once we have done some goal-setting and have done the work to bring what we want to fruition, we should allow the results to develop with a sense of detached involvement.
The Law of Detachment can be hard to put into play because most humans are unable to easily accept uncertainty. Mastering the art of being detached from your desires is no easy feat.
It is not a license to stop trying and just hope for the best. To detach, you need to act, then develop a higher state of consciousness where you are able to refrain from the need to force solutions on problems.
Deepak Chopra once said, “When your mind and heart are truly open, abundance will flow to you effortlessly and easily.” The Law of Detachment is the sixth law he presents in his book, "The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success."
Spiritually, the Law of Detachment is the process of awakening your inner consciousness, your inner light. It is already being fulfilled and knowing the outcome won’t make or break you.
Learning to detach in a healthy way can remove any negative emotions you have about a situation. It also removes the stress and anxiety of worrying about things you have no control over.
The Law of Detachment vs. the Law of Attraction
The Law of Attraction asserts that we become what we give our attention to, and that the more we focus on our desires, the faster and more likely it is to receive them.
The Law of Detachment is also being intentional about what you want, but instead of zeroing in on it, you state your specific desire and trust the universe to deliver on its promises.
The Law of Attraction and the Law of Detachment go together like peanut butter and jelly. They are interconnected and should be done sequentially to get the best results possible.
First, you desire what you want. Then, you let it go. Our ambitions can only be supported by the universe when we let go of controlling what happens and let nature take its course.
How to Use the Law of Detachment
At work
In your professional life, the Law of Detachment requires patience and effort.
Apply for opportunities that move you toward your goals. Don’t expect to get every chance you seek. What is meant for you cannot be denied, so the right moves will manifest at the perfect time.
In relationships
In romantic dealings, the Law of Detachment means you are working on your own personal development, and trusting the universe to make you whole and give you a partner who has also done the work.
The Law of Detachment encourages you to take dating one step at a time, letting go of anticipation and expectations. It means being present and creating deep connections, whether it leads to lasting love or not.
In financial situations
Finances are one of the most stressful parts of life. Bad financial decisions can ruin marriages and lives. But constantly worrying about money is no cure for your stress.
When we anguish over a lack of wealth, we take on a scarcity mindset. Being financially secure is about hard work, paying yourself first, being smart with your money, maintaining an abundance mindset, and keeping an attitude of gratitude.
In friendships and familial relations
When you detach, you accept people for who they are and their personal limitations. You release the need to control and leave room for understanding and authenticity.
This detachment is about letting people be who they choose to be and not what you expect them to be. You release the underlying tension that comes with trying to put others in a box and become more compassionate.
In general
When you put too much attention on what you want, it can become an obsession, putting a virtual chokehold on the outcome. The minute you detach, the universe picks up where you left off.
Deepak Chopra says that wisdom is gained during times of uncertainty. So, get comfortable with being uncomfortable. Trust the journey between where you are and where you are going.
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NyRee Ausler is a writer from Seattle, Washington, and author of seven books. She covers lifestyle and entertainment and news, as well as navigating the workplace and social issues.