10 Subtle Signs He's Totally Smitten With You

Is he into you? If he's done any of the following, there's no question.

Last updated on Mar 05, 2023

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Love. The definition is much-debated, and the reality varies, depending upon where you are in your relationship.

For example, love, when you're walking down the aisle to exchange your "I Dos", is pretty different from the love you share when you're celebrating your hard-won, 50-year anniversary. The thing is, many of us aren't even close to the proposal phase, let alone wedding or golden anniversary. What we want to know is does he like me? Does he really like me?


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Here are 10 subtle signs a man is totally smitten with you:

1. He talks you up to all his friends

If you're meeting his friends for the first time and they already know your entire life history — not to mention your favorite movie, ice cream flavor, and guilty pleasure song — chances are he's hooked on you and has probably been suffering major harassment at the hands of his buddies in the name of love. (Yeah, he's totally whipped.) 


2. He enjoys doing the most inane activities with you

Doing laundry together. Running errands. Napping. Shoe shopping. Congratulations, you're the most boring couple ever. (Kidding!) But when he acts like the most mundane, everyday activities are confetti-filled barrels of fun—because you're doing them together — there's definitely something there.

3. He'd rather talk to you than watch the latest episode of 24... at least for now

If he shuts down his Blackberry, Xbox, or most recently scheduled World of Warcraft raid so that he can give you his undivided attention, don't doubt his devotion. Most women would kill to command that sort of attention at later points in their relationships. 

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4. He's not afraid to say, "I love you"

In fact, he willingly says it in front of both friends and family and doesn't balk at PDAs either.


5. He misses you. Always

He texts and/or emails regularly to say that he was "thinking about you," or "just wanted to say hi." Even a "hey, what's up?" speaks to the depths of the pain he feels when you're not around. And if he can't let a day go by without a phone chat? You're gonna have a tough time getting rid of this one.

6. He takes it for granted that you have a future together

He says "we" instead of "I," and talks about your future together as if it's a given. "When you meet my sister you'll see what I mean," or "My birthday was boring this year—we'll have to do something fun next year." He may not have mentioned marriage, but he's definitely thinking long-term. 

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7. He goes the extra mile

He surprises you with candy buttons because he knows they're your fave. He puts gas in your car or unloads the dishwasher, completely unsolicited.


They're not grand gestures, but he's making an obvious attempt to do something special for you. Men and women speak different languages when it comes to romance, but when he does something nice for you without being asked, he's trying. And that speaks volumes. 

8. He can't get over how beautiful you are

If you keep catching him sneaking peeks at you from across the room, he's totally a goner.

9. He picks you over the boys

Are his friends hitting up the local dive bar? Well... he'd rather spend the night with you and your latest Netflix picks.

They're going to a microbrewery for beer tastings? Well... the two of you already had plans to hit up a comedy show later that evening. They're making their monthly odyssey to that strip club a few towns over? Well... hmm... lemme think about... what!? Of course, I'd rather spend time with you, honey. Yes, he's smitten.


10. He's willing to be a total mush

As evidenced by the mixed CD he made you for your monthaversary, complete with a cutesy album title and hand-drawn cover art, and accompanied by a carefully chosen card containing five long paragraphs on why he's grateful you're a part of his life.

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