Smart Men Usually Only Date Women Who Do 11 Things Immature Men Can't Stand
AYO Production / Shutterstock Some women intimidated immature men. This type of guy thinks he needs to be the center of his partner's universe. Instead of an independent woman, he wants someone he can take advantage of.
Smart men think differently. They want a partner who is strong within themselves. Relying on a relationship to get every need met isn’t healthy. These men know this and prioritize finding a woman who does certain things that would send immature men into a tizzy. They aren’t cut out to date a woman who is strong in her sense of self. Smart men, however, love that about their partner. It’s one thing that sets them apart from the average guy.
Smart men will only date a woman who does 11 things immature men can't stand
1. She communicates clearly
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Communication is vital in a relationship. When two people struggle to communicate clearly, drama is bound to follow. Immature men may like a woman like this. Sometimes, people can love the drama of constant arguments. Immature people may enjoy being sucked into problems, even in their own relationships.
Smart men know better. They want a woman who has it together and can talk through their problems maturely. Instead of finding themselves in constant miscommunication, they’re on the same page. Smart men don’t have time for the things immature people might enjoy, like unnecessary arguments with their partner.
2. She sets firm boundaries
A woman who sets firm boundaries doesn’t get taken advantage of. Instead, she stands her ground. She knows that while it might be difficult, there is importance in saying ‘no.’ They protect themselves and their energy by holding people accountable. It’s not surprising that this would be something immature men can’t stand. Likely, they want a partner who will do what they want, when they want it. With firm boundaries, a woman knows her worth and won’t give in to this behavior.
When a man is smart, he knows a woman’s boundaries are beneficial for the relationship. She will do what she needs for herself, which keeps arguments and resentment from forming. With boundaries comes trust and safety, keeping each partner healthy and happy in the relationship.
3. She’s independent
We all know immature men. Likely, you’re reading this thinking about someone specific. The man in the back of your mind likely struggles with other people’s independence. Likely, he wants them to devote all of their time and energy to them. Unfortunately for them, independent women don’t have time for people like this. Smart men, however, will only date someone independent.
Relationships are special. They add so much to our lives. However, they should never have been the center of our world. Smart men value women who have lives outside of the relationship. Whether it’s a career or a close group of friends, these things make a difference. They can do their own thing, but still flourish while spending time together. Immature men want someone who only has their attention on them.
4. She doesn’t need validation
If someone’s self-worth hangs on the validation their partner gives them, they will struggle to have a healthy relationship. Immature men want someone who relies on them for their self-esteem. They want to have control over them, and if they are the only person who is ‘lifting’ up their partner, she will become desperate for his attention. It may be the way he convinces her to stay with him, even through the constant red flags.
Smart men find women who need constant validation exhausting. This time of man is likely not interested in having someone who clings to him for her well-being. Instead, they seek confident people. Validation is important, but being too dependent on someone else for this can be troubling in a relationship.
5. She is always honest
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Honesty is the best policy, right? In a relationship, that’s almost always definitely true. Immature men may enjoy getting caught up in dishonest relationships. As mentioned before, they seem to crave drama in their relationships. Even white lies may be enough to start an argument with your partner. They may enjoy the ups and downs of a problematic relationship. Of course, smart men have a different mindset.
This type of man prefers a woman who tells the truth. It allows their relationship to feel more solid. They can easily trust one another and work through issues more easily when they arise.
6. She doesn’t start drama
Do you know a couple that always seems tense? It’s like they are always arguing. Not only that, but they also struggle to stay together. On-again-off-again is the norm for them. This type of dramatic relationship may appeal to some, but not to smart men.
Drama weighs down a relationship. When a woman is starting fights, whether it’s with their partner or the people in their loved one’s life, it’s a sign that she doesn’t take the relationship seriously. Smart men know this and choose to partner with someone who is more chill.
7. She is always consistent
A healthy relationship needs consistency. It allows the couple to form healthy and strong bonds. They know they can count on one another. If something bad happens, they’re confident their person has their back. However, not everyone is into a consistent relationship. Immature men may enjoy something hot and cold.
If a man isn’t serious about a relationship, he may not want consistency. Likely, he has ulterior motives. Smart men, however, think differently. They want a relationship with a strong foundation. With a consistent woman, he always knows where she stands.
8. She takes accountability for her actions
Smart men love it when women take accountability for their actions. When someone can look at their behavior and genuinely apologize, they are setting the foundation for a healthy relationship. Immature people may not hold themselves accountable and not care if the person they’re seeing does the same. They’re more focused on other aspects of the relationship, which are likely not very healthy to begin with. A mature and smart man knows better.
Holding yourself accountable takes courage. Not everyone is willing to see their flaws and work on them. Smart men know this is a trait they need in a relationship, and will only date women who are capable of it.
9. She holds him accountable
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If an immature guy struggles with women who hold themselves accountable, they especially can’t stand one who will hold him to the same standard. Men can struggle to own up to their bad behavior. Instead, they want a partner who will give them the grace they do not deserve. They’d rather get away with their behavior than become a better person through accountability. He’s looking for a relationship without consequences.
Smart men view it differently. They want to be better. If they are hurting their partner, they want them to hold them accountable. A guy like this may be quick to apologize. Instead of making excuses, they’re thankful their partner holds them to a higher standard.
10. She respects herself
When you respect yourself, you don’t allow yourself to be treated poorly. You know you are worth something more than the bare minimum. It’s no surprise that immature men can’t stand women who respect themselves. They know they can’t get away with their bad behavior with her. Instead, she will leave him the second he treats her poorly.
Other men love women who respect themselves. Smart men will only date women who respect themselves. They value their partner and want her to feel the same way about herself. He knows self-respect is important, and without it, she may not respect him, either.
11. She stays true to herself
Immature men want someone they can mold. If a woman doesn’t have a true sense of self, a man like this will likely pounce on her. He knows that he can shape her into the partner he wants. Likely, it’s one that puts up with bad behavior and endures less than she deserves. Smart men refuse to take advantage of women like this.
Instead, smart men want a partner who knows who they are. They’re confident and motivated. He knows that by teaming up, they can help each other achieve their goals. He may want a woman who knows who she is rather than one who can be encouraged to change. He loves a strong woman who loves herself the way he does.
Haley Van Horn is a freelance writer with a master’s degree in Humanities, living in Los Angeles. Her focus includes entertainment and lifestyle stories.
