People Who Seem To Easily Attract True Love Follow These 4 Steps Without Even Realizing It
Marina Photos | Pexels Are you sick of attracting the wrong people over and over again? Do your relationships start differently but somehow end the same way? If you want to attract true love instead of repeating old patterns, you have to understand why those patterns keep showing up in the first place.
People who seem to easily attract real love have learned (often without even realizing it) how to recognize relationship patterns, take responsibility for their choices, and make changes that open the door to something healthier. When you understand what's been holding you back, you finally create space for the kind of love that actually lasts.
People who seem to easily attract true love follow these 4 steps without even realizing it:
1. They pay attention to repeating patterns
Everyone still learns new lessons about love, even when they're in a real love relationship. You're always learning, but at a certain point in the process, you need to be ready to attract real love. For instance, are you only attracting those who aren't fully available and neglect you in some way? Well, it all stems from you and how you are treating yourself.
If that's the case, look at how you're treating yourself and neglecting yourself. Fix that so you can get out of that pattern. Real love wouldn't neglect you, so if there's the energy of neglect in your life, you will only be able to attract that and not real love. Whatever the pattern is, you always have to look at yourself because your choices are what attract people to you.
2. They change themselves to attract someone different
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The problem is that a lot of people stay stuck in patterns and never learn enough to be ready for real love. It can be so frustrating, and I don't want that for you. I don't want you to waste any more time with the wrong people.
"There is a bit of a paradox when it comes to aligning yourself to receive love, because you must become love to attract it," explained dating coach Jacqueline Neuwirth. "Like attracts like. So, if you want a relationship that is filled with love, joy, and passion, you must first be those things yourself. And you must be them for the sake of being them."
If you don't make changes, you will definitely end up in the same pattern over and over until you do. If you keep doing the same thing, you will keep attracting the same thing.
3. They examine their past relationships
Sometimes, you need to go through something a few times to fully learn, which is fine. But if you'd like to save yourself some time and aggravation, you need to really dissect everything and get to the root so you can fix it now. I don't know about you, but I don't like wasting time. I'd rather get it fixed now so I can move forward.
Whatever the issues are for you, look at how you're doing it to yourself in some way. Really work on putting yourself first and taking care of yourself so you can attract a love that will treat you the same way.
4. They notice common traits and raise their standards
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Look at similar traits with past partners. Were you just settling for someone you weren't happy with? Settling is another love blocker, so removing that energy from your life is important, as well!
"Short-term decisions and choices have longer consequences," pointed out relationship coach Janet Ong Zimmerman. "Whenever you have a choice or decision, make sure you move toward what you want. Ask, 'Am I making a choice that will move me closer to what I want?' Your answer will indicate what you should do."
There can be so many different blocks and patterns. But, really look closely at your patterns so you can learn and fix them to attract that real love instead of just another relationship lesson to learn.
Kristine Carlson is a psychic medium, advanced soul realignment practitioner, life coach, and author.
