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10 Hot Ways To Use Date Night As Foreplay [EXPERT]

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Did you know that sex starts outside of the bedroom? In fact, some dates can be so arousing that they qualify as foreplay! So how do design a date that's so sexy, you're gauranteed to be tearing each other's clothes off by the end of the evening? We asked 10 of YourTango's top dating experts to share their best techniques for turning up the heat on date night.

1. Billiards

There are so many reasons I love a game of pool for date night. It's fun, competitive and sensual. Not to mention, it's a great opportunity for the man to correct your position as you're bent over the table. (Are you thinking what I'm thinking?) In a game of pool, you need to be very deliberate and strategic in your every move ... and this applies to what's going on off the pool table, as well. I suggest wearing a form-fitting pair of jeans that accentuates your derrière and hugs your curves or if you don't mind playing a little dirty, dress up in a short skirt, a peek-a-boo blouse, tights and your sexiest pair of heels. Display a hint of cleavage and spritz on an enticing perfume to tease him by appealing to all of his senses. You can trust the fact he will not be thinking about the game. Instead, he'll be wondering how your bet can be redeemed. Carmelia Ray

2. Thrill-Seeking Activities

Adrenaline gets your heart pumping, quickens your breath and makes your face flush; remind you of something? From sky-diving to kart-racing, activities that leave you buzzing with palpable energy and excitement are likely to light a spark between you and your date. Check out your local amusement park and make a bee-line for the rollercoaster. Just climbing into the coaster makes you feel like a teenager again — as in unbridled enthusiasm and raging hormones. Plus, the adrenaline rush you get as you're plunging down a big drop, whipping around a corner or speeding though a loop, is not unlike the feeling of more intimate activities. —David M. Matthews

3. Brain Stimulation

There is nothing that gets the juices flowing more than brain stimulation. After all, the brain is the biggest sex organ in the body. Stimulating it with sexy words will create for more passionate lovemaking later on in the evening. During date night, send flirtexts to let your lover know exactly what you want to do later in bed. Be direct, but sexy, using short, story-like sentences. ("When I am with you, I want to peel off your clothes and kiss you between your legs.") Use your imagination and flip through the pages of an erotic novel for inspiration. Later that evening, take turns having control in the bedroom. This exchange of control can be an exciting roleplay adventure. The point is to let your imagination take over. —Dawn Michael

4. Anything Unexpected

Most couples get into a comfortable status quo when they have been in a relationship for a while. To keep your sex life exciting, it's best to do different things. No one wants a lazy lover and every woman wants a romantic partner who takes the time to show how much he cares, whether that's a bouquet of flowers or a candlelit dinner. The key is adding the element of surprise. —Christy Goldstein

5. Sensual Dinner Date

At dinner play with your wine glass, breathe deeply and gaze into his eyes. Don't be afraid to get all Marilyn Monroe on him. You are the woman he dreams about. Excuse yourself to go to the ladies room and slip out of your panties. When you return, slide your hand over his shoulders and insert them right into the breast pocket of his jacket. After this top secret date night move, he will be so excited that he won't be able to think of anything but ravaging you. —Dina Colada

6. Island Staycation

Take turns 'kidnapping" your partner — that is, whisk them away for a romantic rendezvous. Set the stage by transforming your home into an island paradise — fake palm trees, piña coladas, sensual reggae music and take-out island food all work. Feed each other aphrodisiac foods like chocolate, champagne and oysters. One critical ground rule to follow: curb all heavy discussion in the day leading up to your date — it's a mood-killer. —Bonnie Weil

7. A Flirt-Fest

Foreplay begins with "hello" — so make it count. A tentative hug or kiss communicates, "I'm not really sure about this." Meanwhile, a stong embrace communicates: "I couldn’t wait to spend this time with you; I'm so looking forward to finding out more about you." Flirt by making deep, loving eye contact. Drape her coat around her shoulders with care, brushing against her back as you do so. Hold hands while walking. You'll experience an easy, gentle familiarity with your partner. Appreciate the gift of having a companion — not everyone is that lucky.—Lori Carpenos

8. A Week-Long Date

Stoke the fires of desire daily. Foreplay includes taking the garbage out on Monday (without having to be asked), a foot massage on Tuesday, a makeout session on Wednesday, a sassy text on Thursday, sharing a belly laugh on Friday. Follow this idea and hot sex is sure to come on Saturday.—Kyle Corsiglia

9. Food Play

Before your date begins, leave a teasing voicemail to let him know that you have an exciting evening planned. Lightly dab perfume on your inner thighs and wear a sexy outfit (sans underwear). Give him a lingering kiss and whisper in his ear, "I can't wait to feel your naked body." As you pull away, look him directly in the eye and flash your pearly whites. When you settle in to the table at your dinner date, kick off your shoes and graze his leg. This kind of touching will take his breath away. For the meal, order food that is sexy to eat: sttrawberries, whip cream, chocolate are all sexy foods. Invite your date to try your food and feed him a taste from your fork. This is a delicate way to show you don't mind mixing bodily fluids. Don't be afraid to leave your dinner half-eaten, as your date will want to whisk you home — and you might not make it past the car. —Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

10. A New Experience

New experiences release dopamine to the brain, which helps to get your sexy thoughts flowing. You can try any one of these ideas: schedule a couple's massage, sink into a steamy, Turkish bath, do some salsa dancing or ride in a hot air balloon. On the more emotionally intense side of the spectrum, do a workshop with your partner. It lets you expose parts of yourself to your partner that he/she has never seen before and can make any sex more intimate. —Samantha Karlin

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