What To Say When Someone Says, 'Tell Me About Yourself'

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Dating Advice: How To Answer The Question, 'Tell Me About Yourself?'

Fellas, we’ve all been there.

You meet someone at a party who catches your eye and strike up a conversation. Soon, the innocent banter between the two of you seems to be going well enough that it starts to get personal.

Then you hear those four words come out of her mouth, “Tell me about yourself.”

Just the thought of knowing how to answer what feels like an interview questions and having to come up with the right things to say that will sound interesting enough to get her to like you without seeming rehearsed can send you into a mild panic.

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Don’t worry. Remember the purpose of these "getting to know you" questions is to see if you can give an honest accounting about yourself without sounding boring or conceited.

You can excel at answering when someone asks you to tell them something about yourself if you use these 6 simple pieces of dating advice:

1. Remember: it’s not a job interview.

Keep in mind the person in front of you is not looking for a chronological list of your storied accomplishments. They are looking to see what your interests are; your likes and dislikes; what makes you tick.

She likes what sees on the outside, but she wants to know if what she hears matches what she sees.

2. Emphasize those parts of your life you’re most proud of.

She will want to see passion and enthusiasm about the things you enjoy the most. If you speak about those things matter-of-factly, it may give the impression that you’re not passionate about your life. Therefore, she may wonder, how will you be passionate about being with her?

3. Be real.

Don’t feel like you have to make something up to make yourself look better than the next guy.

Also, if you are in a relationship, say so. The truth will always come up in the end.

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4. Keep it short and brief.

You want to keep your answer to between one to two minutes. Anything longer than that will seem more like bragging or rambling.

Plus, you want to allow enough time to inject your own question in between. When she asks you about yourself, she also wants you to be just as interested in her.

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5. Definitely do not follow up with the same question.

It will indicate to her that you don’t have an original thought. While you are telling her your story, you want to look for any non-verbal clues she gives because that will keep the conversation going around the topic she seems interested in.

6. Save your favorite interest until the end and ask your new lady friend, “Have you done or tried this before?”

This will do two things. It will show her the activity that you really enjoy the most and it will help you determine if you have something in common. If she hasn’t participated in the activity then it opens the door to ask her out to give it a try.

By leaving the door open, you will know if you aced this question if wants to know even more about you.

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Keith Dent is a relationship coach and the author of In The Paint: How to Win the Game of Love. If you struggle on how to better present yourself in person, please contact him via email for a free consultation.