5 Undeniable Signs That It's Time To Break Up

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How To Know When To Break Up & Leave A Relationship
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When it comes to breakups, some people don't know when to leave a relationship or how to know when to break up because most of the time, they don't realize a relationship no longer makes them happy.

Almost all couples in a serious relationship want to make their relationship last. They will do anything and fight to make their relationship work. 

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But sometimes, the signs are obvious that something is not right  and you tend to ignore those signs and lie to yourself that there is no problem in your relationship.

One reason you might not want to break up is because you love your partner so much and you don’t want to lose him and deal with the separation process.

However, no matter how hard you try, your relationship just doesn’t work. You just feel terrible that you are hurting yourself. If you feel anxious and worried about whether you should continue your relationship or give up on it, it's time to reflect on it.

So, when is it time to end a relationship?

Here are 6 signs that tell you it's time to break up and leave your relationship for your own good.

1. There is more pain than happiness in your relationship

Your relationship should bring you more happiness and inspiration. If your relationship brings you more pain and frustration, then the person that you are with might not be right for you.

You might be blinded by the happy moments you have shared with your partner in the past and tend to wash away the problems, frustration, and tears that your partner is causing you at the present time.

If you feel that you are unhappy a good majority of the time, then you might consider some changes. Don’t hold on to the person who doesn’t care about your happiness.

2. Your partner expects you to change

When your partner wants to change your bad habits such as smoking, drinking, or procrastinating — this a good thing. It means that your partner just wants better things for you.

However, it is not a good thing when your partner wants you to change so that you will become another person and they are too controlling over you as a person. 

A leopard can't change its spots. You cannot change a person’s character and upbringing. Your partner should accept and respect who you are, your beliefs, and your values.

Letting your partner control who you are is not only toxic in your relationship but toxic to your well-being, as well.

3. Your relationship won’t allow both of you to grow as individuals

You feel that your relationship is suffocating you and that you don’t have space or freedom for you to explore and grow. Settling down in a relationship doesn’t mean that you need to settle and put your life on hold.

When your relationship or your partner is requiring you to give up on your personal goals, this will only lead you to become bored in your relationship and see your life less interesting. Plus, you are missing the opportunities in your life.

If you have a lot of regrets because of missed chances because you are thinking of your relationship or the happiness of your partner first, then you have to think if your relationship and partner is worthy of your sacrifices.

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4. Your partner is hurting you emotionally, physically, or verbally

You should not allow anyone to hurt you physically, emotionally, or verbally. These types of abuse are a major no-no in any relationship. How can you tell if you are in an abusive relationship? Well, the fear of your partner is the most telling.

If you are always cautious of your actions and watchful of the words that are coming out of your mouth when you are around your partner because you are scared that you might anger them — then chances are you are in an abusive relationship.

No one should feel unsafe. If your partner is hurting you emotionally, physically or verbally, it's toxic love. It’s time for you to think if your relationship is salvageable or if it’s time to cut the ties and get out of the horrible situation.

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Don’t be afraid to speak up and stand up to your partner about them being abusive.

5. When your partner is exerting little to no effort in the relationship

Ideally, relationships should be a 50/50 — it should be balanced. However, there are times that you feel that you are giving more than your partner. Giving too much in a relationship is a good thing because you are showing your partner that you care for them so much.

But the problem arises when your partner is not reciprocating your efforts, thus, leaving you in a one-sided relationship. Sometimes the signs are clear that you are in a one-sided relationship. But admitting it to yourself and deciding what to do is hard because you are blinded by your love for your partner.

If you feel that you are in a one-sided relationship, you might consider getting out of it.

So, if you're wondering to yourself, "When is it time to break up?", these are the signs to pay attention to and you should only consider them as guidelines.

Breaking up with someone you love is not an easy thing to do. We all have different situations in a relationship and you know your limitations and tolerance.

If you are not happy with your relationship, discuss the problem with your partner. And if things still don't work out, let go, learn from it, and move on.

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