Love, Self

Are You Easily Seduced?


In my coaching practice, I see various types of women of all ages, backgrounds and professions. Most of them are getting over the man who blew into their lives as a fantasy, great lover or trustworthy confidant, whom they eventually fell in love with only to end up heartbroken. What I found fascinating is that although many of these women suffered with intolerable heart break that they no longer wanted to feel, they also refused to take my advice or let me help them because they did not want to let go of the euphoria invoked by the memories of a man who broke their heart. When my clients explain to me their stories from beginning to end, I immediately see the red signs from the start. It also becomes clear to me that these men were able to manipulate and seduce these women because of their emotional vulnerabilities at the time. Single In Italy: A Recipe For Seduction

Many of my clients came to me not wanting to get better or get over the "Don Juan" who left them blue, but would attempt to use our sessions together to fill the void left after the absence of the love they thought they once had. After studying The Art of Seduction: An Indispensible Primer on The Ultimate form of power by Robert Greene, I was able to learn so much about why some women are easier to be seduced than others and what characteristics make a woman more seducible than another. Read below and discover if you are a seducible woman who is at risk of heartbreak if the right 'Casanova' comes along!

1. Dissatisfied With Life: It may be that she is unhappy with her job, her marriage or life in general...but this single woman who's dating is an easy target for the sophisticated seduction of a man with short term plans for love in his life. Women who are dissatisfied with their life are easy to be seduced because the 'Casanova' simply needs to fill that void or take their minds off of their unhappy reality by creating a fantasy that provides a temporary escape from reality. If you want a healthy love experience to show up for you, start today and begin falling in love with yourself and your life. If there is something you are dissatisfied with, change it and create the reality you desire...and only then will you be a hard target for a seducer on the loose! Do You Love Yourself?

2. Unhappy All The Time: We all know "Debbie Downers" who are so sad all the time and e just want to choke ourselves after being around them for five minutes! They complain about anything and everything and always appear as if their cat just died that morning. An unhappy person is an easy target because a seducer is a master at distracting them temporarily from their sadness. Many seducers will even play upon a victim's sadness and tell them why the seducer is needed in their lives to bring joy or dependency to the world of the sad single lady. It is said that life happens to everyone, but it is the way you perceive the events of your life and the meaning you give them that determine if you will be happy or sad. Being sad all the time is a choice that can and will change when you change your focus. There is always something to be thankful for, so start there and wear a smile on your face. Then more positive experiences will start be attracted to you! The 'Think Positive!' Experiment

3. People Pleaser: As children, we come into this world knowing that we are just fine the way we are, but something happens to remove that self assurance as we are told to be polite, indirect and cautious of everything we say, do or wear. This creates a sense that we must gain the approval of others in order to be satisfied with ourselves. People pleasing single women are easy to be seduced because once the seducer captures their heart and then pulls back even slightly, the people pleaser will fight like hell to gain the affection and attention of her seducer once again. The attention is intoxication but the rejection is unbearable and creates an obsession to feel 'good enough' to be loved. Love yourself and don't focus on trying to please others who can't accept you as you are. Love is not to be earned but given. If someone is unwilling to give to you wholeheartedly, then cut the virus loose so that you are open to receive the one who will! 5 Tips For Meeting Good Men

4. Vivid Imagination: There is nothing wrong with having a vivid imagination; however, where single women with vivid imaginations go wrong is when they believe everything they are told instead of paying attention to a man's action. A seducer plays off of the imagination of a single woman because he is able to paint a picture of the future they can have together someday, without producing any tangible results at all. People want to believe in fantasies and in what they are being told. It is the human need within us that hungers to believe a lie when the truth is unappealing. Date with your eyes wide open and do not ignore the red flags of unfulfilled promises. Pay attention to the actions and ignore the words that fall on dry ground. Revealed: The 7 Biggest Lies Your Man Has Probably Told You

5. Easy To Have Sex With: In my book titled 'Value Your Vagina' I discuss the power of a woman's vagina and everything it represents, such as self-respect, life and value. Too often, in this new age of care free sex, women are having sex indiscriminately as if they were men, but then wonder why they are filled with so much hurt, anger and resentment. A seducer preys on a woman with low self-esteem who is looking to be loved and willing to use sex in order to get the love she seeks. A seducer's main goal is sex and once he gets what he wants, he is on to his next victim. Although having sex is probably one of the best feelings any person can experience, it is that much greater with the right one whom loves and accepts us for whom we are. When a woman has sex, she releases oxytocin, which is a chemical also released when a mommy nurses her baby. Oxytocin causes bonding. Many women have had sex too soon with the wrong man and form a strong bond that is hard to break. Avoid the drama and the target of a seducer by valuing your "v" and everything it represents. Then one day, love will show up at your door! Value Your "V"

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