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How To Find True Love & Manifest The Man Of Your Dreams, According To The Law Of Attraction

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How To Find True Love & Happiness In Relationships Using The Law Of Attraction To Manifest Your Dreams

When I was single, I spent much of my time waiting for that elusive knight in shining armor to swoop in and rescue me from my life. I had no idea how to attract that person and hoped he would somehow fall into my lap. It wasn’t until I stopped waiting and worked on making myself happy that I was able to figure out how to find true love and manifest the relationship of my dreams.

Finding true love is not usually something that simply "happens" to you one day. Neither is it something that is out of your control. On the contrary, learning how to true love and happiness in relationships is something you can work on strategically.

The key is first understanding how to use the Law of Attraction to your advantage so you can find your own happiness first.

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What is "Law of Attraction?"

The Law of Attraction is "the belief that by focusing on positive or negative thoughts, people can bring positive or negative experiences into their life. The belief is based on the idea that people and their thoughts are both made from pure energy, and that through the process of like energy attracting like energy a person can improve their own health, wealth, and personal relationships."

The Law of Attraction and the quantum physics that support it say that at the most basic level, your body is made up of energy. You each vibrate at certain, controllable, frequencies. And at whatever frequency you vibrate, you attract those people who vibrate at the same frequency.

Author Deepak Chopra, in an article in the Huffington Post, talks about this principle and explains, “Like attracts like, and the more you live your own ideal of love, the more your light will draw another light to you.“

So only if you emit positive energy, can you attract a positive, fulfilled partner.

Your emotions indicate your vibrational pitch. When you feel happy, successful, and loved, you emit a very different energy frequency than when you feel sad, frustrated, or angry. This difference is apparent to others. It creates a state in which you either invite or block positive people from coming into your life.

Blockages can truly be the result of momentary stresses. However, if you find your conversations are more about the problems with men than your gratitude at having a loving and helpful partner, your vibrations may not be what you think.

Generally, few people ask themselves very often whether they feel "good." To change this, consciously take a few moments throughout the day to check in with yourself. Ask: “How am I feeling at this very moment?”

It’s easy to remember the crisis and conflicts that come during a day. Yet, the reality is that for most people, much more of your day is filled with pleasant moments than unpleasant ones.

Why not give yourself the chance to note those and revel in the good feeling that comes with some intentional appreciation? If remembering to do this proves difficult for you, set the alarm on your phone to remind yourself during the day. It only takes a moment. Events will come and demand our attention while feeling good sometimes requires us to have intention.

Your vibrational frequency will reflect this, and you will attract others who feel good as well.

To shift your vibration, first, start by taking stock of the people that surround you now. Several prominent inspirational speakers, including John Rohn, have used the statement that, "You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with."

I tend to agree. For years, people who were unhappy with their lives surrounded me.

Once I became aware of how I felt around them, I started to look for people with more enthusiasm for their lives. And as a result, I rarely find myself entrenched in depressing conversations, but rather feel uplifted by the people who surround me.

So ask yourself who those five people are and examine how you feel when you are with them. Do they support you? Do they inspire you to stretch, learn and laugh? Or do they deplete your energy each time you see them?

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If you have friends that leave you depleted, start to limit the time you spend with them. You can do this in subtle ways. You can simply not be as available.

And if you do connect with them, make sure that you plan for short encounters. You don’t have to cut them out completely, but you can schedule one-hour coffee meetings versus planning to spend an entire day together.

If close family members leave you depleted, become proactive about changing the conversations you're having. Share good details of your life and steer away from topics that don’t make you feel good.

Plan more activities with the friends that do uplift you. You don’t have to wait for them to reach out to you. You can be proactive about reaching out to them and schedule activities together.

If, when you take stock of your close circle, you notice that you don’t have many people who uplift you, start looking for new ones. Pick one or two topics that fulfill you, and search Meetup for gatherings of like-minded people. Or search out resources your town or city may offer that could connect you with new people.

Attracting the sort of mate who wants to join you in an energizing and fulfilling relationship requires that you create your own fulfillment and the vibrational energy that goes with it first.

So get comfortable with asking yourself, “Am I happy at this instant?” and make it a routine practice to remind yourself that your life is pretty good. Re-connect with the activities that make you feel good.

One that always makes me feel good is hiking. I may be grumpy when I start, especially if I'm holding on to something from my day that went wrong. However, by the time I get into nature and feel surrounded by all its beauty, everything else falls away and I feel wonderful.

I also started going to yoga classes because I loved how it made me feel. And once I started dating again, I connected with a man whose profile said he loved yoga. This man is my husband today. We had both figured out how to find true love because we were each taking care of our own needs first and pursued the things we love. And vibrating from that positive place we were able to attract each other.

I keep a happiness list on my phone. It lists activities that make me feel good. When I start feeling in a funk, I scan the list and pick one of the activities. I then engage in it until I feel better. That way, I can ensure that I can lift myself out of a funk fairly easily without relying on anyone else’s help.

Figuring out how to find true love doesn’t require sweat and tears, but rather it requires you to take care of your own happiness. When you fill your day with activities you love and people that uplift you, you emanate joy and fulfillment. The right partner will feel attracted to you and will want to join you in this wonderful life you’ve created for yourself.

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Selina Schuh is an educator, author, speaker, and owner of Empowered Living Strategies, who teaches women who are feeling frustrated and under-appreciated in their relationships step-by-step skills to create deeply connected relationships. Click here to visit her library of free resources, or to download a free guide on how to create your own happiness list.

This article was originally published at Empowered Living Strategies. Reprinted with permission from the author.