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Why Men Ghost Women Who Do These 8 Things On Social Media

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Why These 8 Social Media Bad Habits Cause Men To Ghost You

Whether you meet a guy at your local coffee shop or through your online dating profile, in this digital age, it's likely that you're both on some form of social media.

And while it can be a great tool to learn more about the new guy you're dating, there are some bad habits women have on social media that can turn men off — so much so that it might even cause them to ghost you.

But what is ghosting, and how can your social media presence determine whether or not a guy will ghost you?

If you're not familiar with ghosting, the meaning of the term is "... breaking off a relationship (often an intimate relationship) by ceasing all communication and contact with the former partner without any apparent warning or justification, as well as ignoring the former partner’s attempts to reach out or communicate." In other words, they disappear from your life without a word.

If you've been ghosted by a guy, possibly more than once, you're not alone! It can be exhausting and disheartening when one man after another disappears without a word or reason.

Many women find themselves spending a lot of time wondering what they could have possibly done wrong to cause a guy to ghost. They surf the web, discuss with girlfriends and maybe ask a guy friend when they have access looking for reasons. Most often, it’s just not worth even thinking about, since you’ll never know the answer.

Who can say why a man changed his mind about communicating with you? The potential reasons are endless. However, and this is really a saving grace, what causes a man to ghost a woman usually has absolutely nothing to do with you.

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For example, he probably wasn’t serious dating or finding love. He could have just been online because he was bored, likes to flirt, wanted an ego boost or was thinking about cheating on his current woman. You can see that none of these motivations for him reaching out and ghosting have anything to do with you.

However, there are a few things you want to be aware of that can definitely turn a guy off — especially when it comes to your habits online — since women who make certain social media mistakes find themselves ghosted by men more frequently.

Here is a list of 8 bad habits women have on social media that cause men to ghost them.

1. They're too clingy.

Clinginess is not appreciated in any form and it's one of the top reasons men ghost women. On social media, you might hang on his every post and comment too quickly. Give it a rest.

You don’t need to be first or look like you are hyper vigilantly watching his platforms. This bad habit is extremely unappealing.

2. They over-communicate.

Are you messaging him too much on any platform? Over-communicating on social media is a bad habit men find extremely annoying. This also applies to texting. It’s nice to stay in touch, but to space it out. Don’t crowd a man by communicating too frequently. That’s likely to make a man ghost you.

Sometimes, it’s good to even skip a day. This is especially true if you are always the one reaching out or initiating. Instead, you want to mirror a man’s efforts. And if he’s the one over-communicating, feel free to not respond right away to set the pace and establish boundaries.

3. They're not showing their "best" side.

When women post lots of photos that aren’t flattering, guys might decide they're just not interested. Nothing can dry up a conversation quite like lost attraction.

Be a bit more selective about the pictures you post to avoid ghosting, if this sounds like you.

4. They are overly emotional in their posts.

Are you always emoting about some topic in your social media posts? There’s nothing wrong with expressing yourself, but when women go on and on or constantly share strong or raw emotions, it can be a turn-off.

There are men who will do anything to avoid engaging with overly emotional displays, so if they spot this bad habit on your social media feeds, it could cause them to ghost you.

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5. They post expressive political beliefs.

There are lots of people who use social media to express their political opinions. But if the guy you are seeing is from the other side, chances are he won't be into the messages you’re posting.

This could explain why he ghosted, but in this particular case, it might be for the best. Opposing political viewpoints would be problematic for your compatibility in the long run anyway.

6. They overstep privacy bounds.

Digging through a guy's history to learn about his romantic past is a sure fire turn off, especially if you bring things up or ask questions about what you found during dates. This behavior makes you look insecure — like you are investigating him.

While you may be curious, this is not a way to earn his trust and may cause him to walk away and ghost.

Instead, be smart about what you learn about him on social media and hold off asking too many questions in a row. If there are things you feel you must discuss, ask only one big item per phone conversation or date.

7. They overshare about their love lifes.

Sharing about your budding romance on social media, especially at the beginning, can be a lot of fun. This is such an exciting time as you get to know a man, and you could be bursting with excitement.

Trouble is, if he’s a more private person than you are, he might not want so much revealed publicly about what happens between the two of you — especially before your relationship is solidified.

Some men might get freaked out by the sheer number of posts you put up about him or your relationship. Share and enjoy with your girlfriends about how things are going by all means, but don’t overdo the public postings until you've been in a committed exclusive relationship for a little while, if you want to avoid ghosting.

8. They use social media to post mean or hurtful things.

Here’s a good rule of thumb about what you share on social media: If you wouldn’t say it to someone face-to-face, don’t say it on social media. Whatever you do, don't hide behind the platform to communicate something hurtful or questionable.

Be smart and edit yourself. Think twice before you press "send".

Even if you think your new guy isn’t into social media because he’s not that active — which might cause you to post things you might not otherwise share — that doesn't mean he won't find out what you're posting other ways and be turned off by your bad habits.

For instance, he may have friends who might alert him about your online behavior. That’s a reason to be a bit more reserved and not take the chance of pushing him away unnecessarily.

Ghosting someone is often a painful and curt way to end a relationship, but it's a path that many people choose to avoid awkward discussions about what makes them uncomfortable about another person.

One of the smartest things you can do for a new relationship is to discuss your social media habits and preferences. Open a conversation about how you use social media and find out what he does. Talk about what he feels comfortable posting and what he thinks is going too far.

Having this discussion early on establishes boundaries in your budding relationship — which can help you avoid problems later. Plus, it gives you the opportunity to work through something without much emotional charge.

As an added benefit, engaging in this kind of conversation reveals how he handles discussions and negotiates. It also reveals a little about your compatibility as a couple. Testing the waters gives you great insights into who he is and if his way of communicating is going to work for you long-term.

Why wait to find out you aren't a match? Go ahead and talk about social media habits and other subjects that will help you know if he's the one or not.

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