7 Most Important Qualities Of A Good Man

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7 Most Important Qualities Of A Good Man

The guy you're dating may seem like a great catch, but how can you be sure that he has all the qualities of a good man — and possibly even husband material?

When it comes to finding true love, if you want the type of man who's capable of commitment in healthy relationships, you want to be certain he possesses certain personality traits and characteristics that match well with your needs and your own definition of a good man.

And yet, when asked why they're still single, many women insist the reason is simply that all of the "good ones" are taken.

Why is it that so many single women today believe with such certainty that these qualities of a good man are so hard to find?

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Western culture has evolved in ways that have made finding a good man tough.

As explained by columnist Margaret Wente in The Globe and Mail:

"In a nutshell, over the past few decades, the traditional relationship exchange has broken down. It used to be that men and women each had something the other really needed. Men needed access to sex. Women needed access to resources. Men couldn't get steady access to sex unless they had resources to offer, so they worked hard for them. The partnership between men and women was a grand bargain that (usually) left both sides better off ...

"Sexual liberation is a fabulous thing — in some ways. But it can also turn men into louts, because women don't expect much in return for access ... [So a] lot of women seem to have their act together these days. But a lot of men don't."

But just because our culture has changed, that doesn’t mean there really are no good men around at all.

Men who possess these 7 qualities of a good man make the best boyfriends and husbands.

And I promise you, they are out there!

1. Maturity

You will be able to quickly determine a guy’s emotional maturity by observing how he reacts to situations and how he treats the people around him.

In a restaurant, for instance, when the server takes a bit longer than you'd hope to get to your table, how does he react? Does he take it in his stride, or does he lose his temper? Does he shout at the server when an order gets mixed up?

Even if he's on his best behavior, it's hard for anyone to hide long-standing habits. Watch him keenly enough and you will be able to determine whether you are on the right path.

2. Purposefulness

Experts say that men derive a huge chunk of their identity from their dreams.

If a man is creating and working toward something that's bigger than himself, he is likely to be more satisfied, and as a result, he can be a better partner.

3. Friendliness

A majority of guys who get married had a friend who got married within the last year. You can learn much about a guy's character traits from the quality of his friendships and the quality of the men he is friends with.

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Are his friends mature? Do they share your values and also show the qualities of being good men? Does he maintain friendships over the years?

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4. Availability

Many men remain emotionally unavailable because they overlap their relationships. "Single" does not always mean available.

If he is holding ties with his ex or he is consumed with work that he has no room for someone else, he will eventually hurt you, because he's not ready for a long-term relationship and he isn't boyfriend material.

5. Directness

Many guys think that if they approach dating with a flippant sort of attitude, women will suddenly fall in love with them. But a relationship with a guy who plays games will only end in tears.

A quality man should be able to look straight into your eyes and express himself. Anything less than that, and he is weak, and you should not settle for that.

6. Kindness

Men who are ready for healthy relationships tend to be past a few different phases of their lives already. Most notably, their "fun and adventure" phase, and their "get paid" phase.

Kindness comes after this. It demonstrates that his life isn’t all about him, which is especially important when it comes to starting a family.

7. Honesty

Men don’t always do the right thing, or even know what the right thing is. But as long as a guy is being honest about it, you can deal with him.

If he is hiding something, it can ruin trust and have a negative impact on his life and the people around him.

So are there any good men who with qualities like this left out there?

Finding that man who is a combination of best friend, lover, and partner — and who doesn't present any of your deal breakers — may just be one of the hardest things in the world.

Many women want to cut the chase. Unfortunately, the quest for a good man takes a lot of effort, planning, and prospecting.

The reward is almost never immediate, but if you are consistent and clear, you will meet a fantastic guy worthy of your affection!

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Randy Skilton is a relationship expert who shares his guidance for single women.