10 Signs A Girl Really Likes You (& Definitely Wants To Be More Than Just Friends)

Photo: by João Silas on Unsplash
Here's How To Tell If A Girl Likes You More Than Just A Friend (& If You Should Ask Her Out)

If you like a woman but can't figure out how to tell if she likes you back, don't panic! The way to know if a girl likes you lies in some really simple signs that you can pick up if you're paying attention.

Attraction is a strong force, and if you're wondering, "Should I ask her out on a date?" but worried you'll get rejected, there are ways to figure out if she's really attracted to you and wants to be more than "just friends."

RELATED: How To Get Out Of The Friend Zone & Get Your Crush To Notice You

A woman is interested in a man who knows what he wants and goes to get it. By noticing a woman you likes and knowing how to respond to her, you'll definitely get some points in attractiveness.

If you don't notice her or lack confidence in capturing her attention, she'll eventually lose interest and you'll miss out.

If a woman likes you more than friends, she'll put extra time and effort into seeing you. If she's not into you, then she will not put so much effort into seeing you, but will want to hang out with you among other friends, rather than one-on-one.

If you are her bestie, she may confide in you about other men in order to get your opinion: a clear sign you are in the friend zone.

If she's in the friend zone with you, she may be open and not really care what you think. Whereas, if she's into you, the chances are that she's trying to impress you, look her best, and flirt with you.

A clear sign that she's interested in you is when she gives you a taste of what's to come, in order to tempt you and entice you to become interested in her. Her aim is to get you to you pick up her cues and signals that she's interested in you, so you can ask her out. So men, it’s your job to read the signals and act. Otherwise, you may miss your chance.

She may not directly tell you that she likes you, but she will plant the seed by being sensual, flirty, and showing an interest in you. She is encouraging you to make the first move. Therefore, pay attention to her signals and cues as an invitation for you to ask her out.

If she’s interested in more than friendship, she will smile, gaze passionately into your eyes, and mimic your body language. She is keen when she waits for you to make your move and respond to her signs that she wants you.

She does this to give you the thumbs up to go for it. She wants to be chased and pursued by a man who wants her.

Here are 10 major signs that she likes you and wants to be more than just friends:

  1. She flirts with you by fluttering her eyelashes, gazing into your eyes with a smile, and mimicking your body language to show rapport.
  2. She makes an effort to spend quality one-on-one time with you.
  3. She blushes, stares, and looks away when she’s anxious around you.
  4. She asks you questions to show that she wants to know you more and is interested in you.
  5. She gets excited and nervous around you, even jittery in case she says the wrong thing.
  6. She is self-conscious about how she looks, she’s trying hard to impress you.
  7. She goes out of her way to dress up for you, putting in more effort than normal. She wants you to want more by tempting you.
  8. She will notice how you respond to her, to see if you are interested.
  9. If she has chemistry with you, it will feel effortless, and the connection will be undeniable.
  10. She wants you to ask her out for a date or dinner. If she’s interested in being more than friends, she wants to know that you are starting to fall for her.

RELATED: How To Tell Someone You Like Them — Without Scaring Them Off

If she’s really keen, her signs will be more obvious, saying things like:

Do you want to come back to my place? (pause) I shouldn’t say that, should I?” She will tease you, and take it back, showing you her desire is high, but she has to contain it because she doesn’t want it to end in a one night stand. She wants to keep you holding on for more, by keeping you keen.

If she’s keen, she will hold out for sex a little longer — so she's not easy prey — but will want you to keep putting effort into getting to the next base.

She will put the goal post closer toward you, so you can make your mark. Then she knows you deserve the final prize.

So how can you tell if she really isn't into you and wants to just stay friends?

  • If she has to make the first move, she's not convinced that you are into her and she will show less interest, because it is risky for her to put herself out there and get no response.
  • She wants the chase, otherwise, she will lose interest if you ignore her signals. If she feels rejected, she’ll stop giving the cues altogether and you might just lose her.
  • If you come on too fast, you will lose her interest because she wants the space to get to know you. She will be disinterested if you make sexual advances before any real connection is formed: this will tell her that you are only into one thing.
  • If you do not pick up her signals to you that she’s interested, she will not be convinced that she’s worth it for you to chase her, and she will stop putting effort in.
  • If she's in the friend zone, she will treat you no differently from her friends, she won't want to be taken out for a date, because she won’t want to string you along or hurt your feelings. She might make excuses to not catch up or tell you that she’s busy.
  • If she’s not interested in you, she won't go out of her way to see you or impress you.

She will show an interest in you if she’s keen to arrange another meetup or interested in how you feel about her. She will respond to your calls promptly and prioritize time with you

If she’s interested in you, she will prioritize time spent together with you: Getting to know you to see what the future prospects are and looking for compatibility.

She will check to see if you are also putting the effort in and responding by laughing at her jokes, mirroring her gaze, and flirting back.

If her signals are not matched with responsive behavior, she will lose interest because she will think that you aren't interested in her. She wants to know that her man wants her, not in a desperate way, but in the sense that he will do whatever he can to be with her.

If you want to figure out how to tell if a girl likes you, then read the signals she's putting out. If she's attracted to you, you will definitely know and should be ready to ask her out so that she doesn't think you're not interested in dating her!

RELATED: 15 Not-So-Obvious Ways To Make A Woman Fall In Love With You

Nancy Carbone is a relationship therapist who focuses on improving how couples relate by overcoming barriers to intimacy and connection. For more information on how she can help you, visit her website and reach out to her today.

Sign up for YourTango's free newsletter!