Is Sharing Your Wife Worth It? 4 Surprising Benefits Of Wife Sharing

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When the term "wife sharing" is mentioned, many people will either choose to ignore the whole issue or discourage it. However, deep inside, many actually desire to engage in it.

For those who don't know the term, Urban Dictionary defines wife sharing as, "The act of allowing one or more men to use the wife for their sexual gratification and/or to pleasure the wife the way the husband is unable to." This also gets mashed up with wife swapping, where married couples exchange wives for sexual activities.

Society always portrays that a man should stick to one wife. In fact, the notion or even thought of sharing a wife is treated as taboo.

But, the truth remains that sharing your wife with another man, or having another man share his wife with you, is not a bad thing after all — as long as it's done correctly.

Here are 4 surprising benefits of wife sharing and how it can actually improve your relationship:

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1. Wife sharing can invigorate your marriage.

It is a known fact that even the so-called "marriage made in heaven" also goes through some storms. A time comes when your "queen" or love of your life stops being all that. It might be momentary, but it still affects your life.

In fact, many divorces are fuelled by a stale love life. Nothing to talk about, lacking the life energy, or feeling ignored are some reasons.

Rather than being a victim of a stale love life, you should consider sharing your wife as a way of spicing up your life.

2. Wife sharing reduces boredom and monotony.

Let’s face it! Married life can become boring and monotonous. Sleeping and waking up every morning seeing the same face. Putting up with the same old boring stories. Trying hard not to stare at your friend’s or neighbor’s cute wife.

I mean, you would not want to make the misses angry, would you?

The best way to kill the monotony and boredom in married life would be through wife sharing. You, as well as your wife, will have something different to experiment with and talk about.

3. Wife sharing improves trust.

Sharing your wife is more than just widening your sexual experiences. It also helps in building trust.

You probably are asking yourself, how? Well, many men and women are involved in infidelity or unfaithfulness simply because their married life sucks. Unfaithfulness brings mistrust in a marriage.

Nonetheless, wife sharing allows the husband and wife to experiment with other people openly. The openness and transparency build trust among the couples.

In fact, a couple will not engage in other affairs without first informing his/her partner.

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4. Wife sharing creates new experiences.

There is a saying that states "Experience is the best teacher." No matter how many books you read how many movies you watch, or visits you make to the marriage counselor, you are highly unlikely to salvage a stale relationship.

But, if you opt to experiment with other people's wives, you get to learn new things. Also, you are able to share thoughts and body with someone else.

In the end, you become much wiser and more open-minded.

Is it healthy to share your wife?

If you are in agreement and practice safe sex then yes, it can be healthy.

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Monogamy is not for everyone, but wife sharing is also not for everyone.

So before going into this sex life, be sure to talk it over together and establish rules and boundaries.

Having and sticking with the conversation will allow for a physically as well as mentally and emotionally healthy relationship when experimenting with wife sharing. 

But if you easily get jealous or are a bit on the territorial side this lifestyle may not be for you.

Although many people choose to not talk about it, and if they do, they talk in hush tones, sharing wives is becoming more accepted. Many people are already doing it secretly. Some have even given it names such as wife exchange, wife swapping, and more. This desire is fuelled by the factors mentioned above.

Rather than trying to fight the truth, it is probably high time we accepted the truth. The sooner wife sharing becomes an accepted norm, the better for everyone.

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Mike Hatcher is a sex coach who has been in the Lifestyle for many years and has written about open relationships, swinging, and sex and relationship advice for alternative sex lives.