What It Really Means When A Woman Is Called A 'Hotwife'

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You may have heard the term "hotwife". You may have even been called it yourself.

But do you know exactly what the meaning is?

What is a hotwife? 

"Hotwife" is a term that can apply to any woman whose husband feels she is hot enough to attract other men, but more specifically, in the world of kinky sex practices, it is meant to imply that the husband desires some level of interaction between his wife and another man.

Urban Dictionary defines a hotwife as, "A married woman who is allowed and/or encouraged by her husband to pursue sexual relationships with other individuals. Often, these relationships are in pursuit of fulfilling the husband's/couple's fantasies."

While the concept of another man holding, kissing, and making love to a married woman is typically considered to be a bit out of the norm, it is a fantasy that many men and women do have.

In fact, research has shown that many men fantasize about watching their woman engaged in some degree of sexual activity with another man.

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What is being a hotwife like?

Apparently, it can feel sexually freeing. Being in a hotwife relationship can be beneficial, that is if all parties are in agreement and are consenting to be in it. These benefits range from giving women freedom and confidence to increasing trust.

There are Quora message boards and chat forums where you can have conversations with other hotwife people to look into the reality of the lifestyle along with how to be a hotwife.

Some common hotwife advice is to not let porn educate you on the lifestyle.

Here are just 8 of the ways hotwife relationships can be fun, exciting, and beneficial to you both as a couple. 

1. It allows women to fulfill their wildest sexual fantasies.

Many couples do have sexual fantasies of taking their relationship to a new kinky level. Hotwifing is one way of expressing yourself while at the same time having a good time.

Research shows that many couples do have fantasies of hotwifing but most of them are unable to express themselves because they do fear what their partner might think of them. Therefore, one of the benefits of hotwifing for women is the fulfillment of lifelong fantasies that they get.

2. It provides women with freedom.

The wife gets the freedom to enjoy the company of the opposite sex. Many married women would like to enjoy the company of men other than their husbands, but they don’t get that chance. When a man allows his woman to be in the company of other men, she can enjoy that fresh kind of intimacy.

3. It frees women from the jealousy of their men.

Jealousy is one of the major reasons many relationships fail and insecurity is a contributing factor in many disagreements and breakups.

Hotwifing can help to rid the man of his feelings of jealousy, and when he gives his wife the freedom to be who she wants to be, she knows her husband has her best interests at heart, which helps her trust him more.

4. It increases trust and communication within relationships.

Relationships are built on trust and communication. If you want a happy, lasting relationship, you must ensure that you understand each other and also give each other the chance and freedom to be yourselves.

Before a couple begins to dive into actual hotwifing, they both need to agree they each really want to do this. These kinds of open and honest conversations increase trust and communication between the couple and bring them closer together. 

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5. It makes women feel beautiful and desired.

As a man, you will feel that you actually have the hottest woman on earth, and it's every man's desire to have a woman who is another man's dream. Hotwifing gives men the perfect chance to appreciate how beautiful and desirable his woman is, which typically serves to increase both his love and respect for her.

6. It boosts confidence.

Hotwifing gives women a chance to express themselves. When a woman knows that she has the support of her man to do whatever she desires, she feels great about herself, which helps to boost her own self-confidence.

7. It increases intimacy.

Hotwifing gives both the man and woman in a couple the perfect chance to gain important knowledge about themselves and each other that can help increase the intimacy of their connection. The new adventures and the wide variety of options dramatically deepen a couple's bond.

8. It provides a greater sense of sexual satisfaction for both husband and wife.

Hotwifing creates a perfect platform for attaining physical satisfaction. The woman is able to spend quality time with men who interest her, which quenches the thirst that in more traditional marriages might otherwise lead to affairs and betrayals.

The benefits of hotwifing are far greater than many people think.

However, as a couple, you should completely trust each other and ensure that you are reading the same script before any encounters are made.

Mike Hatcher is a sex coach who has been in the Lifestyle for many years and has written about open relationships, swinging, and sex and relationship advice for alternative sex lives.