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What Kind Of Message Does Your Body Language Send?

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The old adage goes that it's not what we say but how we say it. Nowhere is that more evident than in our love lives. We communicate extensively with our body language, and, often, romantic disappointments occur when our voices speak one thing but our bodies signal another. We asked three experts for tips on how to observe the signals our bodies are conveying and how to be sure we're sending the romantic messages we intend.

Masculine vs Feminine energy
To have a successful relationship in the 21st century, women must navigate between being independent and strong, yet able to maintain the aura of femininity men desire in a partner. Women can often get stuck in a rut because they are unable to access their feminine mojo, and end up unconsciously broadcasting masculine energy via nonverbal cues that cause men to perceive them as "tough," "aloof," or "intimidating." Here's a few examples of how your body language might unconsciously leak masculine energy. 7 Traits Of Irresistible Men

Going out to dinner? Notice whether or not you allow him to approach the hostess desk first, or muscle your way in to give her your date's name first. During dinner, masculine energy can be broadcast if you find yourself reclining back when listening to him talk. Take note of your facial expressions. Is your brow furrowed? In order to shift into feminine energy when you're with your man, ensure that you operate from a place of vulnerability and share the truth of who you are, even when it might appear on the surface to be "needy." Ensure your shoulders are relaxed and your chest is open. When he speaks, listen intently and lean forward to indicate your interest. Touch him lightly on the arm or shoulder when he says something funny, or shares a story which evokes a feeling of compassion in you. If he offers you his jacket, be open to receiving his assistance and then lean into him slightly to help him access his masculine "hero" energy.

Marni Battista, Dating Coach

Know the facts
According to, words make up only 7 percent of our message. Tone of voice is 38 percent, and the largest piece of the communication pie is nonverbal at 55 percent. Nonverbal communication can bring us closer to others or distance ourselves. Dating 101: How To Know He Wants To Kiss You

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