What Is A Karmic Relationship? Here's What Being In One Is Really Like

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In western society, we are programmed to dream of that fairy tale relationship and "happy ever after," and usually spend our lives looking for a soulmate or 'The One.'

But what we often end up finding — without even realizing it! — are karmic relationships.

What is a karmic relationship?

In her blog post about the nature of these special bonds, writer, teacher, and intuitive Amanda Linette Meder nails the definition of a karmic relationship. She says:

"A karmic relationship is a romantic bond that is formed with someone in your soul group and it's a relationship designed to heal past life lessons and pain."

Karmic relationships are the type of soulmate relationships that no one necessarily wants, but everyone has.

Signs of a Karmic Relationship:

Identifying such a bond isn't always easy, but there are certain signs of a karmic relationship to look for when you meet someone who makes you feel something you never have before.

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1. It was "love at first sight."

Whether or not you believe in love at first sight is one thing. But if you were instantly attracted to someone for reasons you can't really put into words, chances are there is a karmic connection at play.

2. The relationship is an emotional rollercoaster.

It's true that no relationship is easy, and they all take work. However, karmic relationships will regularly thrust you into a cycle of blissful highs and devastating lows that normal relationships just don't experience.

3. It's a codependent relationship.

Karmic relationships are all-consuming. In a codependent relationship, you don't feel at ease unless you're with your partner all of the time, you begin to have a warped self-image, and boundaries are basically non-existent. In short, you're physically and emotionally dependent on this person and your relationship.

4. It doesn't last.

Because of all of these factors, karmic relationships are known for being on-and-off. That level of volatility is simply unsustainable.

However, it's not unusual for the connection to be so strong that you can't help but find your way back to each other even though you know in your heart it may not be what's right for either of you.

Karmic relationships serve a purpose.

Karmic relationships are a source of growth for those in them. You will likely find that your karmic partner is extremely similar to you in their ways. This gives you the opportunity to analyze yourself without actually analyzing yourself. You gain a sense of awareness that gives you the opportunity to change the worst parts about you for the better. 

In short, karmic relationships are lessons that allow for healing and maturation. 

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There are differences between karmic relationships, soulmates, and twin flames.

Karmic, soulmate, and twin flame relationships may feel similar, especially while you're in them — but they have marked differences. You don't really know the lasting effects and true label of each until you've had time to process them.

Karmic relationships are typically those with people whose purpose is to teach us a lesson.

Though the love is fierce, it's selfish, often toxic, and they aren't meant to last. 

Karmic relationships can't be soulmates.

Soulmate relationships, on the other hand, are those that make us want to become a better person not for ourselves, but for your soulmate.

While a karmic relationship is home to two partners who ultimately care more about themselves than the other, soulmates are the opposite. You would do anything for your soulmate, and they would do the same for you — which is why soulmate relationships are more likely to last. 

Lastly, when it comes to a karmic relationship vs. a twin flame, twin flame relationships completely transcend all labels.

Your twin flame may not even be a romantic relationship but could be friends, family members, or someone you just have an overwhelmingly strong bond with.

A karmic relationship can't be a twin flame because the love with your twin flame is truly unconditional and encourages deep soul growth without the volatility that you'll find in a karmic relationship.

You can identify a karmic relationship with psychic channeling.

Karmic connections are, as Meder puts it, "challenging to say the least, and heartbreaking, to be more clear."

The practice of psychic channeling is a means of communicating with a consciousness that is not in human form by allowing that consciousness to express itself through the channel. This practice has been around for millennia.

Channelers, also sometimes known as psychic mediums, often use what is called "spirit guides," friendly spirits who give them knowledge and help them on their spiritual journeys.

Understanding Karmic Relationships:

If you've found yourself in the cycle of a karmic relationship, it's undoubtedly as painful as it is euphoric. Remember that for most, karmic relationships don't last — they simply aren't meant to.

However, if you are married or with the person you want to spend the rest of your life with, understanding how karmic relationships work will help you put the events of your relationship into perspective.

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Marla Martenson is a matchmaker, author, and Reiki practitioner who helps people connect with their soulmates through self-love and healing. Read more about Marla’s spiritual adventures in her memoir, The Buddha Made Me Do It, A Field Guide To EnLITEnment.

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