How To Fall In Love With The Person Who Matters Most (Hint: YOU!)

There is absolutely no substitute in the world for self-care.

Love the one you're with. What? Really? Yeah, you read it right. Of course, that one being the one you are with 24/7, 365 days a year. It's you!

My first submission here at YourTango is to give you an idea of who I am, what I'm about and where I'm coming from. All in less than 1,000 words (good luck with that).

The single most important relationship I will ever have is the one I have with myself. The single most important conversation is the one I am having with myself right now, and continue to have every minute of every day of my life. Like most people, I tend to believe I have a pretty good relationship with me, myself and I, which is mostly a positive conversation. But, the real truth is that those notions are self-serving and more than a little deceptive.

Every aspect of my life has four components: Mental, Emotional, Spiritual and Physical (MESP). The MESP components of my relationship with myself perhaps have more of an influence over every other aspect of my life. How I feel about me is going to translate into how I reflect onto the world, and ultimately onto how I feel about others and react or respond to them.

Let's focus on the physical. I believe a very simplified discussion about my relationship with my physical self can be expressed in three questions:

  • How do I feel?
  • How do I look?
  • How do I feel about how I look?

Let's face it—most of us feel less-than-spectacular most of the time. We feel tired, lifeless and dull. We could certainly look a little better, be in better shape and release a few pounds, or a bunch of pounds. And, of course, we don't feel so great about being overweight and/or out of shape. So, in the end, my relationship with me is not all I might want it to be, nor is it all I might deceive myself into thinking it is.

Many of us have tried yo-yo dieting or signed up for a fitness class of some type, maybe even showed up for a couple. But, with very few exceptions, the existing programs for dieting and exercise have failed us ... miserably.

I don't need to go into the stats on this—Google it and you will get an eyeful. The existing programs all depend on either depriving your body of vital nutrition or simply modifying the intake of the processed foods that we buy in the store. Make no mistake about it—our food supply will never again be sufficient to nourish our bodies, but the real enemy is not the food; it is the processing.

So, if I am going to modify my physical relationship with my body, I would be wise to look for a 21st century solution to avoid being part of a statistical problem, which every day seems to be getting farther and farther ahead of all attempts to slow it down.

Some of the latest science out there points to environmental toxicity as greatly responsible for the increase in our weight and decrease in our health. So, ridding the body of some of this toxicity will go a long way toward helping to lower our weight and improve our health.The science is not particularly complex, but the available technology is wanting, with few exceptions. I share more information about the problem and a solution that has worked for me and thousands of my clients at my website,

A few simple food choices to encourage detoxification daily:

  • Hot water with lemon and a dash of cayenne pepper.
  • Eat an organic apple every day
  • Ginger
  • Onion
  • Eat more beets

Think about this for a minute: If you decide to engage in a little self-care, cleanse your body of toxicity, provide it with nutritionally dense foods and exert the willingness to get that done, subsequently releasing a bunch of excess weight, regaining your energy levels and enjoying the resulting feelings of healthy well being ... how might the answers to those three questions change?

How will I feel? How will I look? How will I feel about how I look?

Fall in love with the possibilities and bring them into fruition. You will have a whole new relationship with you. The self-talk will be more positive, and the most important love of your life will live longer and healthier.