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How To Contact A Dead Loved One Who Has Crossed Over, According To The Rules

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The loss of a loved one is a life-changing event. When you lose a precious person in your life, it's natural to turn to your belief system for comfort.

The grieving process is different for everyone. Your beliefs and philosophy may have rules for how to contact a dead loved one because society accepts the notion that people survive the death experience. 

The reality, however, is that there's only one rule for contacting a loved one in spirit: being open to the possibility.

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There are religious and cultural factors when you're figuring out how to contact a dead loved one.

Religious factors and belief systems often provide rules for just about every area of life, and the afterlife.

The rigidity, flexibility of the group, or the dogma of any given faith system may dictate when or whether a person can ever communicate with those on the other side.

There are those who claim that communicating with the dead is dangerous because you cannot be sure that you are not communicating with an evil entity.

Some belief systems promote a 40-day rule that states that it takes time for a spirit to acclimate to its new surroundings. Others claim that it takes up to a year.

And some claim they can immediately communicate with those who have left the earthly plane.

Cultural standards are much the same as religious ones. For some, there may be rituals or signs that indicate that a crossed-over loved one is communicating from the spirit world.

In other cultures, people believe that spirits never communicate with loved ones they have left because they have moved to another life in the spiritual plane. Other cultures believe there's no afterlife at all.

The metaphysics of grief

When religious or cultural standards do not "feel right or do not appear to be working," many people turn to metaphysics as an alternative philosophy. 

The reason is that metaphysics does not follow any pattern or set of rules.

The definition of metaphysics is "the study of existence beyond the physical." In metaphysics, the "rules" of openness, patience, sensitivity, and belief in the afterlife allow you to recognize spirit communication.

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Metaphysics enables you to explore and verify to your own satisfaction whether a loved one in spirit has communicated with you without the constraint of a religion or culture.

You may have your own parameters that satisfy your curiosity and want to keep them private.

The problem that metaphysics presents is that it is broad and subject to many interpretations. 

Practitioners tend to impose their own ideas and opinions that may work for them but not for you. It's wise to use your best judgment when using this philosophy as a basis.

The rule of openness

Navigating the different social, religious, and cultural norms that have been set up can be confusing. 

Sorting out the best course of action for you depends upon your attachment to the principles that you have been familiar with during your life. Sometimes, breaking away from stereotypes and conventional thinking is necessary.

The dilemma of figuring out the rules for contacting a deceased loved one can be perplexing.

If you're open to contacting someone who has died, then you have overcome the biggest hurdle of accepting signs that someone wants you to know they are OK in the spirit world.

If you feel you need rules, then it's okay if you're receiving results.

Metaphysics can be a guide for you to follow if you feel like you need some methodology for contacting someone. 

This philosophy gives you a broader path to follow, but it can have its own pitfalls because there are broad interpretations set by many different practitioners.

You must use your ability to discern what is real for you and what is not in this area.

The best rule for contacting a crossed over loved one is to just be open to it. It's simple, direct, and it allows you to accept information in a way that's best for you. 

The loss of a loved one is very personal and overcoming the grief associated with it is not easy to do. 

There's no need to make communicating more complicated than it must be.

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John Cappello is a practicing psychic medium and is available for private consultations. For more information, please contact him on his website.

This article was originally published at johncappello.com. Reprinted with permission from the author.