5 Smart Ways To Heal Your Broken Heart And Find Something To Be Happy About Again

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How To Get Over A Breakup & Heal A Broken Heart Quickly
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We all want to know how to get over someone we once loved after a breakup left us with a broken heart.

But, if you find yourself still thinking, "I hate what he did to me, but I still love him," getting over an ex and moving on from the heartbreak may be trickier. But, it's not impossible.

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A broken heart is painful, just like a broken limb. Although, grief, fear, and anger may not be avoidable, don’t lock yourself in your room for the next 12 months.

Your heart can regenerate and heal and ditch the heartache for a happier feeling.

Here are 5 ways to get over a breakup so you can move on from the broken heart.

1. Ditch the negative thinking

This includes negative thoughts about yourself, your loved ones, and your circumstances.

When you're learning how to get over a heartbreak, it's time to swap those negative thoughts with positive, affirming statements.

"I am healing my broken heart and I am redefining life on my own terms."

"Everything is just the way it should be. It will all work together for good.”

What’s causing you discomfort, at the moment, in time, will become a speck of dust. Swap for slow deep breathing and smelling the roses.

2. Stop people-pleasing

You haven’t got time for that when you're getting over a breakup. Get comfortable with saying "no" to people and tasks that don’t line up to your objectives or don’t add value to your life.

Add some self-expression. What is it you’d like to do, have, or be?

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3. Ditch the DIY projects

Why get depleted with mundane or trivial tasks you don’t enjoy? When getting over it ending, treat yourself to support yourself. Hire service to clean or complete projects around your home.

How about a virtual assistant, relationship coach, personal trainer, nutrition coach, decorator or chauffeur? The possibilities are endless.

You don’t have to do it alone and many of these services are negotiable.

4. Stop the resentment and bitterness

Negative energy takes a toll on your body. So when you're getting over someone, swap to a grateful heart.

Starting each morning with an appreciation or affirming thought puts you a step closer to happiness.

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And when you practice forgiveness, it frees you from the past and opens your heart to love again.

5. Take a pause on spending money on shopping sprees

Your piggy bank will appreciate it. A great way to purge of things reminding you of your ex is by hosting a Sip and Swap party with 8–12 of your closest friends.

While you serve wine and cheese, everyone brings bags of lightly used clean personal items they no longer want. Swap jewelry, shoes, clothes, bags, resort wear, accessories.

In more eccentric parties, you’ll find lingerie, bathing suits, and wedding gowns. It’s better than a bazaar! You’ll want to host them, seasonally. Whatever doesn’t get swapped gets donated to charity.

When we love, we become vulnerable to our significant other. Love can blind us to our partner’s abuse such as in the case of domestic violence and intimate partner abuse. Thus, breaking up can leave us in shambles.

If your pain persists, talk with a counselor to help repair your broken heart.

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Jianny Adamo, LMHC, founder of Fearless Love Coaching and Counseling supports singles and couples breaking through fears and limitations to create safe and intimate marriages and relationships. Jianny is currently writing her book Love Trauma: Recovering from Psychopathic, Narcissistic and Sexual Abuse.