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Here's how to spot Mr. Right.
By James Allen Hanrahan — Written on Sep 04, 2021
Being able to tell if a man is worthy of your trust is critical when you have hopes of falling in love and building a healthy relationship (and possibly even of getting married!).
And after seeing men come and go over years spent dating, most women realize that finding a man who possesses the right mix of personality traits and characteristics is foundational to all successful and mutually satisfying long-term relationships.
A good man, the kind of man who is marriage material, exhibits three essential qualities that are almost universal in any man capable of building a life with you. When you know what to look for, you will find a man who is trustworthy, and with whom you feel secure while enjoying the ride of falling in love.
With that in mind, here are three personality traits women should not only look for but reasonably expect to find in a man who is worthy of their trust.
1. He should be generous.
Strangely enough, generosity is a hallmark of a man you can trust. When you first meet a guy, most of the time, if he’s all about 50-50, you can hardly trust that he will want to build with you. Focusing on keeping things 50-50 is often a sign of someone who's all about self-preservation.
Men are hard-wired by nature to provide. They fall in love when they give to you.
Generosity is a sign that a man is ready to have a relationship and as strange as it may sound, it's a sign you can trust him to be there for you because he’s signaling you that he’s not afraid of responsibility.
2. He should be protective.
A man you can trust is a man who cares about your physical well-being. He cares about the condition of your car, your home, and where you are in time and space. He checks in on you after a date to make sure you made it home, and he’s attentive to what you’re doing and whether or not it’s safe.
Nature teaches men to protect what they value. If a man demonstrates that he feels protective toward you, it's a sign that he's the kind of man you can begin trusting.
Good men demonstrate love through action. They know that building a trustworthy record with you is critical in order to win your heart.
3. He should be cherishing.
A man who is trustworthy cares about how you feel. He checks in with you to make sure you’re comfortable with what he’s doing, in the context of both your relationship and in life in general.
Trust is built over time by establishing a trustworthy record. Good men do this by keeping their eye on the barometer of your feelings. They want to make sure you’re happy and comfortable.
So when a man starts consulting with you before making life-changing decisions, he’s once again showing you that he is consciously choosing to be a man you can trust.
A generous man gives because he wants to provide for you.
A protective man cares about you and wants to make sure no harm comes to you.
A man who cherishes you is golden. His concern for your feelings shows that he holds you in high esteem and takes your well-being and happiness into consideration as you build a relationship together.
Trust is built over time with a man who establishes a trustworthy record. A man who knows how to love will protect, cherish and give to you.
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James Allen Hanrahan is a highly sought-after dating and relationship coach for STRONG women based in Los Angeles. Follow his coaching website.