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Being in the wrong relationship is too painful to miss these signs.
By James Allen Hanrahan — Written on Jan 13, 2021
It's so hard to tell when you’ve met the right person. And figuring out how to know if you're in the wrong relationship is not the easiest thing, either.
Everything starts with chemistry, but there's no guarantee that it will be the right relationship for you.
One way to get a handle on what you want is to know what you don’t want.
There are a few red flags that indicate that you’re in the wrong relationship, and knowing them can save you a lot of heartaches.
If you're wondering if you're in the wrong relationship, here are 3 telltale signs to watch out for.
1. Neither of you is working at it.
An old adage states that relationships take work. While there's an obvious truth to this, it shouldn’t feel like you’re pushing a rock uphill only to watch it roll back down again.
Work that accomplishes nothing and garners no visible improvement nor change is a sign that you're in the wrong relationship.
There needs to be a willingness and openness to change in a partner, along with the ability to take personal responsibility. Otherwise, it can be extremely frustrating and you will get nowhere.
2. You feel fatigued in the relationship.
If you find yourself exhausted from unproductive fighting, you may be in the wrong relationship.
Productive fighting is not the end of a relationship. In fact, it's often the beginning. However, unproductive and unresolved fighting is a red flag.
Emotional stress takes its toll. Your nerves become raw and you feel extremely fatigued.
If you find yourself often at your wit's end, it may be time to examine what your body is trying to tell you. The body doesn’t lie.
3. Your relationship fills you with confusion.
When you continually find yourself not understanding what’s going on in your relationship, the mixed signals can give you a sense that confusion is setting in.
Confusion is often a sign and tactic of toxic people in your life. People with the ability to love are straightforward and can make and keep agreements.
If you constantly find yourself wondering what’s going on, maybe it’s because there’s something wrong.
Clarity comes from the ability to ask for what you want and say no to what you don’t want. If you're often confused, it may be time to approach your partner and see if you can make agreements.
People who know how to love can make and keep agreements. But, people who don't know how to love often make agreements they just don't keep them.
Work is something we do with the intention to improve. If you're just spinning your wheels, this is not a good sign.
Fatigue tells you that something is wrong because when your emotions are drained, the body will demonstrate it.
Confusion can cause you to second-guess yourself and often keep you in the wrong relationship. So, check-in with yourself and trust your intuition.
Being in the wrong relationship can take its toll on you, but being aware of the signs can give you clarity and put you back on the road to what you want.
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James Allen Hanrahan is a highly sought after relationship coach for strong women based in Los Angeles who offers a free Chemistry to Commitment formula for lasting love. If you're a smart woman struggling to achieve relationship success, and tired of dating the wrong guys, connect with him via his calendar link to make finding time easy.
This article was originally published at jamesallenhanrahan.com. Reprinted with permission from the author.