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How To Flirt With A Guy Over Text (And Actually Get Him To Ask You Out)

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How To Flirt With A Guy Over Text To Get Him To Like You & Ask You Out

These days, knowing how to get a guy to like you and ask you means knowing how to flirt over text in just the right way.

If you’ve ever had a guy text you for weeks without asking you out, you know how frustrating it can be.

You’re flirting over text, but he never seems to get around to asking you out. You think he's interested, but what's it going to take for him to finally ask you out on a date?

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If you're more than ready for him to make the next move, here are 3 simple tips for how to flirt with a guy over text that will get him to ask you out.

1. Keep it short and sweet

When a guy first starts texting you, you may be tempted to banter with him. When he asks you questions, you probably want to elaborate in great detail, thinking this will create a connection.

On the contrary, keep it short and sweet.

The goal is to get him to ask you out. If you continually engage in long text conversations, he will feel satisfied with the attention and not be hungry to see you in person.

Examples of short and sweet texts include:

  • "Sounds good! (smiley face emoji)"
  • "Great! (winky face emoji)"
  • "Can’t wait! (blowing a kiss emoji)"

This may sound silly to you but, it makes perfect sense to a guy. Using three words or less and tossing in a few emoji‘s to answer his texts will let him know you're ready for him to move on from texting to asking you out.

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2. Keep it to time and location

The next step is to keep it to time and location. This basically means you prompt him by letting him know when you’re available, as well as where you'll generally be located so he can make plans to see you.

The key to getting a guy to ask you out is to subtly, yet clearly define when you’re available.

This means you avoid texting out of nowhere open-ended questions such as, “How was your day?” Instead, text him statements about what you're doing such as, “Working til six and then I’m off tomorrow.”

Keeping it short and sweet while letting him know your schedule and where you'll be will get the wheels turning and send him on his way to making a date with you.

And frankly, if he doesn’t catch onto this, there’s not much else to talk about.

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3. Tell him what you don’t want

Sometimes, all the subtlety in the world goes straight over a guy’s head. At this point, it’s time to tell him what you don’t want.

You can do this is by texting something like this example, “I really like texting with you. It’s fun and you’re charming and funny. However, I don’t feel comfortable only texting. What do you think about calling me on the phone or us going out together?”

Sometimes a guy just needs a green light to know he can ask you out successfully, and by letting him know what you don’t want, you're opening the door to get what you do want.

Remember, to keep it short and sweet. Your goal is not for you to have epic text conversations, it is to get him to ask you out.

“How was your day?” Is to open-ended a question, and frankly, a question guys often ignore or avoid answering. Instead, give him your time and location as a way to prompt him to make plans to see you.

Lastly, when all else fails just tell him what you don’t want. For example, “I really appreciate texting with you however I don’t feel comfortable only texting what do you think?”

Using these three tips on flirting with a guy over text will get him moving in the right direction.

And the next thing you know, you will actually get him to ask you out.

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James Allen Hanrahan is a frequent contributor to YourTango and a highly sought after relationship coach for smart, strong, and successful women based in Los Angeles. If you're a smart woman struggling to achieve relationship success, check out his free Chemistry to Commitment formula for lasting love and the treasure trove of information he offers in Dating Advice for Alpha Women.

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