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How To Tell If A Guy Likes You — Or If He's Only After 'One Thing'

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Does He Like Me Or Does He Just Want Sex? 3 Signs A Guy Likes You For Real

When you first meet a guy, it’s hard to tell if he really likes you. He may be ready to tear your clothes off and have sex with you, however, this tells you very little about whether he likes you as a human being.

After a guy has sex with you, he may suddenly he says all kinds of things — even, "I love you" — and he'll make sure you know he can’t wait to "see" you again.

But, does this mean he really likes you, or does he just want to have sex with you again?

Many women confuse physical intimacy with emotional intimacy, so it's easy to get confused about whether or not there's any real potential for a long-term, healthy relationship between the two of you.

Fortunately, there are some specific signs you can look for that reveal if a guy likes you for more than that "one thing."

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Once you understand how to recognize the telltale signs a guy likes you, there will be no question in your mind as to whether this is a guy who is capable of being in a relationship with you for the long-run.

Here are three ways to tell if a guy really likes you, or if he just wants sex.

1. He wants to spend more time with you

The first indicator that a man is serious about you is he wants to spend more time with you. The interesting thing about this time is he doesn’t care what you'll do together, he just wants to be with you.

What starts out as a once a week occurence becomes twice, then three times, and so on. When a guy likes you, you start to become more and more a part of his life.

If a guy is only in it for a hookup, he won’t spend much time doing anything else with you but exactly that. If he’s spending more time with you doing other things, this is a good sign.

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2. He wants to see you in the daytime

Real relationships are built in the daytime, whereas hookups primarily happen at night. When a guy starts wanting to spend time with you during the day, now we have something real to talk about.

Speaking of talking, being with a guy who likes to talk to you is important. A relationship is a conversation that never ends. Talking and laughing during the daytime is a strong sign that the two of you are onto something more than casual.

Daytime gives you a perspective on how real life would be with a guy. If he can see you going to the grocery store and doing errands together, then the possibilities for a relationship that will last greatly increase.

3. He's considering a lifetime with you

The third and most important sign a guy like you or more than sex is whether he makes plans with you for the future. Does he talk about introducing you to his family and friends? Is he starting to include you in plans for things that are two or three months in advance?

When a man is only interested in “one thing” he rarely even plans the next date much ahead of time. When you do hear from him, it’s to schedule the next hookup, typically on short notice.

On the contrary, a man who truly likes you wants to plan ahead and schedule the next time he’s going to see you. He doesn’t leave it to chance, because he knows that if he’s not attentive, he may lose you.

This is a man who likes you.

When a man starts spending more time with you, it's a good sign he sees potential for a real relationship with you in the long run.

Daytime is when you find out if the two of you are truly compatible. Walking, talking and laughing together are strong indicators that there’s an element of friendship between you, which is essential for serious, healthy relationships.

Considering a "lifetime" with you means a man sees you in his future. He’s putting you in his calendar, and he's inviting you to meet his family and friends. In other words, he likes you and he"s starting to think about a future that includes you by his side.

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James Allen Hanrahan is a highly sought after relationship coach for strong women based in Los Angeles who offers a free Chemistry to Commitment formula for lasting love. If you're a smart woman struggling to achieve relationship success, and tired of dating the wrong guys, connect with him via his calendar link to make finding time easy.