What It Means When A Guy Finishes Wayyyy Too Fast

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We’ve heard some women state that they believe men who orgasm quickly must be having lots of sex. In reality, it's more typically just the opposite.

When a guy finishes too fast, what does it mean?

There can be many reasons a man may reach orgasm quickly, but one of the most common reasons for premature ejaculation is excitement, especially when it's excitement about a new sexual partner.

Like many women love new shoes, many, many men love new sexual experiences with new sexual partners. Don’t get me wrong: we love having the same old sexual experiences with old partners, too, especially if it’s been a long time since our last visit.

When a woman finally lets us past the pearly gates, we've often spent so much energy on the chase that it all explodes suddenly like a proverbial ticking time bomb. Then you look at us and we look at you as if to say, "Oops, sorry... I’ll be ready next time" silently praying to ourselves that we’ll be back in action before you change your mind.

Men also tend to climax quickly when they haven't been sexually active in a while. Again, there is a lot of excitement (and sometimes, performance anxiety) involved in such circumstances.

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Now, all of the above is said based on the assumption that the man in question doesn’t have some sort of medical basis. Of course, there are several other reasons a man may experience premature ejaculation.

Common psychological and biological causes of premature ejaculation include:

1. Concerns about erectile dysfunction, i.e., performance anxiety

2. Generalized anxiety

3. Issues within the relationship

4. Abnormal hormone or neurotransmitter levels

5. Thyroid issues

6. Medical conditions that affect the ejaculatory system

7. Inflammation or Infection of the urethra or prostate

8. Nervous system damage

9. Diabetes

10. Cardiovascular disease

In his book, The New Naked: The Ultimate Sex Education for Grown-Ups, Dr. Harry Fisch revealed his finding that 43% of men ejaculate in less than two minutes. So assuming a man's his isn’t consistently climaxing in significantly less time than that, there's a good chance the issue isn't a medical one.

If you’re having sex on a regular basis and there is no underlying medical problem, there's a good chance the issue is related to the quality of emotional intimacy in your relationship.

As the dynamics in your relationship change, the amount of time it takes for a man to climax may change, too. When he's deeply in love and feeling connected with you, he’s going to want to make sure you orgasm and that you are having the best sexual experience possible. If there is trouble between you, he may still want to have sex but be more interested in his own pleasure than he is about yours.

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How To Delay Orgasm and Last Longer

An unselfish man will do what he can to control and hold his orgasm until the women he's with has hers in order to make sure she's satisfied. A selfish man is just going to get his and not be concerned about whether you get yours. This can be a good clue to tell you if he’s about himself or about the relationship.

Some tips for lasting longer include:

1. Doing Kegel exercises to build the muscles in your pelvic floor.

2. Using condoms to decrease sensation.

3. Stopping briefly until the urge to orgasm subsides and then restarting.

4. Using desensitizing lubricants.

5. Squeezing the head of the penis at the shaft for about 30 seconds or until the urge to ejaculate subsides.

6. Masturbating to climax at some point within 24 hours prior to having partnered sex.

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