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What It Means When A Guy Finishes Wayyyy Too Fast

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We’ve heard some women state that they believe men who orgasm quickly must be having lots of sex. In reality, it's more typically just the opposite.

When a guy finishes fast, what does it mean?

There can be many reasons a man may reach orgasm quickly, but one of the most common reasons for premature ejaculation is excitement, especially when it's excitement about a new sexual partner.

Like many women love new shoes, many, many men love new sexual experiences with new sexual partners. Don’t get me wrong: we love having the same old sexual experiences with old partners, too, especially if it’s been a long time since our last visit.

When a woman finally lets us past the pearly gates, we've often spent so much energy on the chase that it all explodes suddenly like a proverbial ticking time bomb. Then you look at us and we look at you as if to say, "Oops, sorry... I’ll be ready next time" silently praying to ourselves that we’ll be back in action before you change your mind.

Men also tend to climax quickly when they haven't been sexually active in a while. Again, there is a lot of excitement (and sometimes, performance anxiety) involved in such circumstances.

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Now, all of the above is said based on the assumption that the man in question doesn’t have some sort of medical basis. Of course, there are several other reasons a man may experience premature ejaculation.

10 Common Reasons Men Come Fast

1. Concerns about erectile dysfunction, i.e., performance anxiety

Men may come fast to prove to themselves that they can perform in bed. Men who worry about maintaining an erection end up rushing to ejaculation. This can become a habit making it hard for them to stop.

Performance anxiety is a real thing that many men struggle with.

2. Generalized anxiety

Anxiety is a mental health issue that many people dismiss, but it can have some serious effects. For men, it can cause issues in the bedroom, whether it coming too fast or not getting it up.

Their mind is clouded and busy, so they have trouble controlling their bodies' normal functions and well... c'est la vie.

Bonus points: premature ejaculation can cause even more anxiety. A vicious cycle.

3. Issues within the relationship

Premature Ejaculation can happen when the relationship is in conflict. The idea of not knowing what is going on in the relationship or where you both stand can create tension in bed.

Tension can make it hard to perform.

4. Abnormal hormone or neurotransmitter levels

If a man's hormones are out of wack you can expect their body to function differently... like coming too fast.

Also if their neurotransmitters — the little compounds that carry impulses/messages from the brain to other parts of the body — are out of sorts, it can be difficult to perform properly in the bedroom.

5. Thyroid issues

Premature ejaculation is a sign of several thyroid-related diseases.

So if a man is coming too fast, perhaps get his thyroids checked.

6. Medical conditions that affect the ejaculatory system

Other health conditions that could cause Premature Ejaculation are prostatitis and chronic pelvic pain syndrome.

Certain medications like antidepressants and high blood pressure drugs can cause PE as well. I always urge consumers to check the side effects before using any medication.

7. Inflammation or Infection of the urethra or prostate

Inflammation of the prostate is an effect of the medical condition prostatitis. Prostatitis is the swelling of the prostate gland and will often go away on its own, but can also be helped with prescribed antibiotics.

8. Nervous system damage

Ejaculation is a neurological mechanism. Your nervous system is compiled of two parts, the spinal and brain cord. If one of these parts is damaged in any way it could halt activity or change it in a way that could accelerate ejaculation.

9. Diabetes

Diabetes can lead to nerve damage and as said above this type of damage can impact sexual function.

For those who have diabetes and are coming too fast, the best way to combat it is to keep your blood sugar under control.

10. Cardiovascular disease

Cardiovascular disease is more commonly associated with erectile dysfunction. Others have linked it to premature ejaculation, but there's no solid evidence to support that theory.

In his book, The New Naked: The Ultimate Sex Education for Grown-Ups, Dr. Harry Fisch revealed his finding that 43% of men ejaculate in less than two minutes. So assuming a man's his isn’t consistently climaxing in significantly less time than that, there's a good chance the issue isn't a medical one.

If you’re having sex on a regular basis and there is no underlying medical problem, there's a good chance the issue is related to the quality of emotional intimacy in your relationship.

As the dynamics in your relationship change, the amount of time it takes for a man to climax may change, too. When he's deeply in love and feeling connected with you, he’s going to want to make sure you orgasm and that you are having the best sexual experience possible. If there is trouble between you, he may still want to have sex but be more interested in his own pleasure than he is about yours.

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How To Delay Orgasm and Last Longer

An unselfish man will do what he can to control and hold his orgasm until the woman he's with has her's in order to make sure she's satisfied. A selfish man is just going to get his and not be concerned about whether you get yours. This can be a good clue to tell you if he’s about himself or about the relationship.

Some tips for lasting longer include:

1. Doing Kegel exercises to build the muscles in your pelvic floor.

2. Using condoms to decrease sensation.

3. Stopping briefly until the urge to orgasm subsides and then restarting.

4. Using desensitizing lubricants.

5. Squeezing the head of the penis at the shaft for about 30 seconds or until the urge to ejaculate subsides.

6. Masturbating to climax at some point within 24 hours prior to having partnered sex.

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