Love, Heartbreak

5 Harsh (But Honest) Reasons Guys Keep Breaking Up With You

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Your girlfriends are some of the best people in your life, right? 

They always have your back (especially during a breakup!, but sometimes being a caring and honest friend is hard, especially when they see you getting dumped over and over.

And while your girlfriends will tell you things like, “It’s his loss!" or "You’re too nice” and “You were too good for him” when you're wondering, "Why did he break up with me?" it's really just BS. 

You need the cold, hard truth if you're asking, "Why did he break up with me?" 

Your girlfriends are great for fun, little getaways, for nights out on the town, and for being your wing women, but when it comes to getting real about why men walk away from you, you can't always trust them to give it to you straight.  

But don't worry, I've got your back!

I'm going to tell you what your BFFs just don't have the heart to tell you to your face.

And it may seem a little harsh, but as a matchmaker, trust me, I know the real reason women get dumped and I'm here to share those secrets so it doesn't keep happening to you!

Here's the truth about why men keep breaking up with you:

1. He broke up with you because you never say "thank you" for dinner.

Though you deserve to be treated like the fabulous lady you are, don’t forget to mind your manners! Going out to do special things takes time and money, so make sure you let your man know that you appreciate the things he does for you.

Saying "thank you" takes two seconds and can make a world of difference in how a man feels about you.

You would expect the same from him in return if you did something nice for him, so make sure you return the favor.

2. He broke up with you because you're not nice to other people.

Remember that dinner that you sat down to the other night? If you were rude to your waiter, your date definitely noticed.

If you were out shopping and snapped at a sales associate, he noticed.

If you continue to treat other people without respect that is how he thinks you will eventually treat him. Hint: It's NOT attractive! 

This may be the answer to that ever-pressing question: Why did he break up with me?

3. He broke up with you because you're rude to him and his friends.

You MUST establish mutual kindness and respect in order to make a relationship work. Enough said!

There is no excuse to act like a jerk to somebody.

If he talked to you like that, you would call it verbal abuse. Work both ways, ladies!

4. He broke up with you because you always want your way.

While it’s fabulous being a strong, independent woman, part of that is also being considerate of others and their wants and needs, too. 

Your significant other is someone you care deeply about, so don’t order him around like he is the hired help. (Don’t even treat the hired help like that!) 

He will break up with you as fast as he can.

Part of being in an adult relationship includes compromise, taking turns, and treating each other with dignity and respect.

Keep your communication lines open, and have conversations taking his wants into consideration not just your own.

5. You embarrass him in from of others, so he feels like he has no choice but to break up with you. 

Whether it's fighting in public, flirting with his friends, or drinking too much (yet again), you know that uneasy feeling you get when you see a couple act this cringe-worthy way? Don’t be that couple!

Don't embarrass your boyfriend.

He doesn’t want to make excuses for you or apologize for you crass, foolish or unkind behavior. 

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This article was originally published at Exclusive Matchmaking. Reprinted with permission from the author.