Self, Sex

6 HOT Secrets To Next-Level Masturbation (You're Welcome)

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For all the benefits masturbation has, we do ourselves an injustice when we masturbate quietly, quickly and secretly all the time! In our rush to “get it over with,” there are so many pleasant sensations that we miss. 

Here are six secrets for how to masturbate like a certified pro.

1. Go At It Longer

Indeed, there are days when we don’t have too much time for ourselves. But when you have a little extra time, you can try “edging.” Edging basically means stopping right before ejaculation or orgasm. You can do so by masturbating slowly and gently, and then easing off. If you're able to do so three or four times, you experience more intense orgasms.

2. Switch Hands

Being creatures of habit, we tend to masturbate in the same way all the time. After all, why change a good thing? But if you switch hands, it'll not just result in different sensations when masturbating but also different levels of self-awareness. Ease off the goal of orgasm and take a bit more time to focus on sensation.

3. Use Both Hands

There are many creative things we can do with our hands when self-pleasuring. For instance, as one hand is touching your genitals, the other can explore your chest, nipples and body. Your sexuality extends beyond your genitals. When one hand is still, the other can do the caressing elsewhere. With time, coordination, and creativity, it gets easier.

4. Go Beyond Your Hands

Besides our hands, vibrators, dildos, and other types of sex toys are perfect companions for solo sex! If showering, you can try directing the water from the shower head onto wherever feels good — for example, the clitoris.

Even if you don’t own a sex toy, you can experiment with different types of fabrics and textures over your skin. As your skin becomes activated, you may feel alive in subtle ways you've never felt before.

5. Use A Mirror

Watching yourself go through the stages of sexual response may sound a little intimidating. However, you're getting a look at the person you ought to love more than anybody else.

For men, instead of masturbating lying down in bed or sitting in front of porn playing from the laptop, stand in front of a full-length mirror. Women, prop yourselves against a wall mirror or hold up a handheld one as we perform clitoral or vaginal stimulation.

Once you overcome your discomfort, with time you'll deepen your connection with yourself.

6. Try Mutual Masturbation

Mutual masturbation refers to couples who self-pleasure next to each other, without touching each other. This act is very revealing as we usually masturbate in secrecy and privacy. Masturbating in front of our partner is, therefore, intimate. It provides the opportunity to discuss solo sex, as well as “cement” and build an even stronger connection.

I have found that my clients keep reverting to their habits of masturbation without any sense of creativity or curiosity about their bodies anymore. Instead of treating masturbation as only a way to release stress and tension, I hope you're inspired to deepen your self pleasuring experiences into spiritual practices.

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