3 Signs The Divorced Guy You're Dating Is A Keeper

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3 Signs The Divorced Guy You're Dating Is A Keeper
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You can learn a lot about a man from his last marriage.

Past behavior is like a map into a person's personality. You can learn a lot about a person by looking at his/her past, especially when it comes to relationships and dating.

Sure, people can hide their quirks or act "out of character" for short periods of time. But over the long-term, our true personalities take hold.

This is something to keep in mind when dating after divorce.

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In fact, one study says that you can tell if someone is a keeper based on whether he's sensitive, cooperative and supportive. Presumably, therefore, when a marriage ends in divorce, we can infer that one or both partners lacked those traits.

So, if you're dating a divorced guy, how can you tell if he was the one in his past relationship or marriage who lacked those essential traits? The good news is, if he has these three personality traits, you can rest assured that he will make a good partner.

1. He's a good dad.

People who make successful partners are also successful parents, and vice versa.

A good, immediate indication that he's a good parent is if he will not allow you to meet his children until he feels the relationship has potential. This shows he is protective and sensitive of his kids.

And should you have children in the future, his relationship with your kids will be a top priority.

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2. He handled his divorce gracefully.

As he talks about his divorce, listen to the words he uses. Was he trying to be collaborative and fair or combative and manipulating? If he was collaborative and fair, it is a good sign he's cooperative. And this is exactly the attitude you should want in a partner.

3. He speaks respectfully about his ex.

Also, if he describes the decision to divorce as being mutual, it is a good sign he's supportive. It's best to experience and observe your divorced man's actions over a long period of time to determine if he's a keeper.

But you can get a good initial indication of his personality map by watching how he is as a dad, asking how he handled his divorce, and listening to how he describes his ex-wife. Knowing the answers to these questions will help you determine if your divorced boyfriend has good personality traits and is great relationship material.

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Divorced Guys was created in 2008 by Bruce Smith and Roge Revak, both of whom are divorce experts with different specialties.

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