Why It's Time For Us, As Women, To Stop Calling Ourselves 'Crazy'

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Why Women Need To Stop Saying "My Crazy" Now

There is a disturbing new catch phrase going around on social media posts used primarily by women.

It's the simple but telling combination of the words "my" and "crazy".

Generally, it's used in a context of excusing, justifying, or disqualifying something by calling certain behaviors, circumstances, or sides of a personality "my crazy".

For example, "Happy Anniversary to my amazing husband who constantly puts up with my crazy." Or, "Thank God for my yoga practice (or insert chocolate or alcohol) because it calms my crazy."

In the previous examples, "crazy" is used as a noun, like an object that is owned or kept, even though the word "crazy" is almost always an adjective, in reference to mental health. 

Before we go further, let's examine some of the textbook definitions of "crazy".

According to the dictionary, it means:

As an adjective: mentally deranged, especially as manifested in a wild or aggressive way.

"Stella went crazy and assaulted a visitor"

Synonyms: mad, insane, out of one's mind, deranged, demented, not in one's right mind, crazed, lunatic, non compos mentis, unhinged, mad as a hatter, mad as a March hare; informal, mental, nutty, nutty as a fruitcake, off one's rocker, not right in the head, round/around the bend, raving mad, batty, bonkers, cuckoo, loopy, ditzy, loony, bananas, loco, with a screw loose, touched, gaga, not all there, out to lunch, crackers, nutso, out of one's tree, wacko, gonzo, etc.

Antonyms: sane

The adjective form is the most common use of the word and the definition we most associate with it. None of the above is very flattering, especially when you consider that the opposite of it is the word "sane".

But let's take a look at the textbook definition of "crazy" when used as a noun as it is in the new popular context:

Noun: crazy. Plural noun: crazies

A mentally deranged person.

And there you have it.

Just to be clear, when you own that you have some kind of "crazy", you are actually saying you have a mentally deranged person within you or around you.

And that you're so grateful that your husband puts up with that mentally deranged person. And thank God that yoga, chocolate, or alcohol prevents you from being a mentally deranged person.

Yes, there are other cuter definitions of "crazy" but this very mainstream, common use is enough to say, "Um, no, thank you."

You are not a mentally deranged person just because:

  • You have feelings and emotions.
  • You experience the ups and downs of life that everyone, including your husband, experiences.
  • You are more than a little upset at the current state of our world.
  • You are a parent and are experiencing all the normal challenges of parenthood.
  • You care passionately about your career or business and strive for the highest value in all you do for it.
  • You sometimes get sick, feel down, or are tired.
  • You are a human being.

No, what you call your "crazy" is in no way a clinically diagnosed mental illness, but just normal, human life on this planet.

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Have you ever thought about if you ever hear a man claim that he has "crazy" because he sometimes:

  • Raises his voice?
  • Puts his foot down at home or on the job?
  • Enforces his personal boundaries?
  • Isn't feeling well, physically?
  • Is having a bad day?
  • Occasionally wants to knock a few back to take the edge off at the end of the week?

No, because it's perfectly acceptable for him to experience emotions and react in very normal ways under very normal circumstances.

Perhaps you're thinking that we don't need to take it so seriously or to just lighten up. Why can't we just say it as a joke?

Because it was only a few generations ago that our grandmothers and great-grandmothers could legally be committed to mental institutions and subjected to horrible abuse, entirely against their will just because their husband or father claimed they were "crazy" for any reason they deemed fit — without clinical evidence of that being the case.

It was just a few generations ago that it was perfectly acceptable and legal for a man to slap his wife to "put her in her place".

But, most importantly, because our thoughts and words create our beliefs, which in turn creates our actions, and ultimately creates our reality.

No, women, you are not even close to being mentally deranged. You are dynamic, emotional, passionate goddesses that are residing in these physical bodies for the time being that, of course, are sometimes presented with challenges.

That's not your crazy. That's normal and even beautiful.

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Dina Robison is a soulmate attraction coach and creator of deliberate attraction online courses. Get her free video lesson The 6 Practices of Women Who Find Their Soulmate.

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