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There ARE a few conditions to unconditional love.
By Cynthia James — Written on Mar 23, 2017
Unconditional love is misunderstood and some believe there is no such thing as unconditional love. Yes, we should be accepting and respectful of our mates. We should honor their choices and support their dreams and visions. However, a truly loving relationship contains compassionate truth-telling.
Unconditional love refers to the honoring of our self and our partner. If I see my partner doing something that is not healthy for themselves or our relationship and I do not speak up about it, the integrity of our relationship wavers. When that kind of withholding occurs, the breakdown of the relationship begins. Resentment starts to build a home in our thinking and our trust erodes.
Here are some questions to ask of your relationship and begin to recover unconditional love for yourself:
1. Is my partner truly being destructive or am I exploring a need I have to control?
A need to control is about having things done your way and does not take into consideration the needs of the partner.
2. Am I communicating in a way that includes how much I love this person?
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Begin with the desire for longevity in the relationship, the deep love you feel, and then share your observations — not your judgments.
3. What unhealthy or bad habits do you have? Are you willing to listen to your partner and change?
Our partners often mirror our own character defects. In a healthy relationship, we do our own inner exploration, listen to our partners and make healthy choices.
4. What will you choose if your partner refuses to make healthy or positive choices?
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This is a big one. If you choose to stay, then you must unconditionally accept the choice of your partner. You do not get to nag or complain.
5. Are you willing to get help?
Sometimes a couple needs a therapist or counselor to support. If you are not willing, you are making a choice — a choice that might be detrimental to your relationship.
We are all here to love and be loved, and one of the best manifestations of that emotion is unconditional love. Unconditional love is being awake in the context of the relationship, and daring to be vulnerable, honest and authentic. What can you do to cultivate that in your relationship?