Christine Baumgartner is a dating and relationship coach. Visit her website for more information.

By Christine Baumgartner — Written on Aug 21, 2019
You’ve followed the dating advice and now you're seeing Mr. Wonderful. Things are going really well... and then he does "that really upsetting thing." You're mad. You're hurt. You're frustrated. You thought everything was great and you don't understand why he would do "that."
If he were your employee, you would go to the Human Resources department (HR) and say you want to fire him. Understanding how to break up with your boyfriend is much like work.
HR is familiar with rocky situations. It's part of their job — they've been trained for it. And they've certainly seen their share of employee blow-ups.
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Therefore, HR would ask such questions as:
If the answer to any of these is no, HR would say you can't fire him today. They may even call the employee into their office and ask what happened. And who knows? He might say something like:
At this point, HR would recommend you work with someone to help you lay out a plan to address each issue so this difficult situation can have a positive resolution.
Now, back to you and the boyfriend. Other than "that really upsetting thing," you say the relationship had been going very well. Are you sure you want an action as permanent as ending (firing) the relationship (man) over this one upsetting thing?
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This is a point where working with a dating and relationship coach is helpful. You and I would process things a little differently than HR would, but ultimately, we'd be hoping for the same outcome: resolution of a difficult situation.
We'd start the coaching process by making our way through questions appropriate to your particular circumstance. For example:
Together, we would assess the entire situation so a plan can be made. If, along the way, we determine that the upsetting event is truly a deal breaker, we can make a plan for a clean break and talk about how to recover your emotional health following the break.
If we determine the upsetting event is only one circumstance in an otherwise very good relationship, we'll discuss how changes can be made so both of your needs can get met.
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Christine Baumgartner is a dating and relationship coach. Visit her website for more information.