3 Hidden Signs A Man Is Falling In Love With You

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Does He Love Me? 3 Signs A Man Is Falling In Love With You

Most of us date because we're trying to find that one, true love.

The awkward, clumsy first dates? Those are just an added bonus. The happily ever after? That’s our endgame. As a result, it's natural to want to know love’s ETA.

So, if you’re a woman out there dating a new guy, you're probably hoping there are some undeniable signs a man is falling in love with you so you can stop feeling impatient and relax.

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First things first: if you’re actively searching for signs he loves you, you’re probably coming from a place of anxiety. You know how you feel, and you want to know how he feels, too. You don’t want to invest your time or risk your heart if the two of you aren't on the same page about where things are going between you.

So, you look for signs, and some are indeed obvious. He’s affectionate with you. He maintains eye contact. He spends time with you. Maybe he even flat out says it.

However, there is also another side of falling in love that isn't always expressed, because it tends to be too terrifying to face.

Know this. An emotion as powerful as love will always find a way to express itself. It will always find a way out. So, if you're wondering, "Does he love me?" there are ways love begins to show itself in the connection you share, so pay close attention.

Here are 3 signs a man is falling in love with you to watch out for in your relationship, and recognize them when they come up.

1. He's in awe of your uniqueness.

This is part of the honeymoon phase. The chemical reactions caused in our mind that allow us to drop judgment and only see the best in our partner. We like everything — their quirks, their flaws, even their snoring sounds like a symphony.

When a man is falling in love with you, he accepts your flaws unconditionally. Even the things you may be insecure about? Yep, he finds those fascinating. He encourages you to accept yourself and actively tries to merge himself with you.

He may do this by taking up your interests or hobbies, he may look at you a certain way, and he starts to see you in ways that you might never have seen yourself.

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2. There's an emotional fragility to him.

Among the signs that he's falling in love with you is emotional fragility. This isn't a great experience for men — it invokes vulnerability, a feeling men don’t like to feel.

When he's with you, this may mean he’s stressed out or triggered easily. He may be clingy, jealous, or paranoid that you’re going to leave him. This doesn't mean you’re doing anything wrong — it means that he’s struggling to regulate his emotions.

Not all men exhibit this sign, but many do. It’s typically most prevalent in men who have lower than average self-esteem. This leaves them questioning their self-worth and wondering why a girl like you is with a guy like him.

3. There's a deep and wide connection forming in your relationship.

Of course, love also involves connection — a deep and wide connection. This often manifests as multiple places and categories in his life that he allows you to see more of and be a part of. He might introduce you to his friends or co-workers.

He may show you off to his family. He might bring you to the activities and passions that he finds interesting — he may ask you to join him in a hike or in a pottery class. He may take you to a baseball game or ask for your input in his fantasy football draft.

Men integrate women into their lives when they see the potential of a long-term relationship.

With the above in mind, two additional important elements are awareness and consideration.

When a man starts to really be with you — he focuses on you, he does things for you without you asking, he gives you a kiss out of the blue — he’s started to fall in love.

An uptick in his presence means an uptick in your relationship status. Men don’t invest in women they aren't interested in. And they don’t fall into the role of provider or caretaker for women they don’t see in their future.

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Clayton Olson is an International Relationship Coach, Master NLP Practitioner, and Facilitator. He delivers private virtual coaching sessions and leads online group workshops. Register for his free webinar that reveals the 3 Keys to Attracting and Keeping a High-Quality Man.