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Why Do Men Push Away The Women They Like?

Why Do Men Push Away The Women They Like?

If you really like someone and they like you, why is it so hard for them to just go with the flow and not mess up the good thing they have? Are they scared of getting hurt? Do they know they will mess it up anyway?

I was dating a guy and he was great, when he wanted to be. But, as soon as he started to drink or say something that could not be taken back, the wheels started turning in my head and I knew this little faux relationship would not last. He would tell all our mutual friends how he wanted to be with me and how much he cared. But, his actions showed me differently. Could You Date Someone With An STD?

I am a pretty easy person to get along with, as long as he doesn't do anything that cannot be forgotten. The things he has said and done are things I cannot forget. Recieving text messages saying how much he cares and that he is sorry for what he has done, will only fly for so long. 

I recently removed him and his best friend from Facebook because they tell each other everything. Had I kept his best friend, he would have run to the guy I was dating and told him what I had said on Facebook or what was in my column. I knew it was time to cut the both of them off. Unfortunately, we hang out in the same spots so I will have to stay away for a month or two. Breakup Survival Guide: How To Get Over Your Ex

This past Saturday, I was out with a very good friend. He and I are best friends and would never cross that line. However, I have heard that the guy I was dating thought my best friend and I were doing something more than just being friends. This pissed me off.

The last time I checked, my phone was still on and all he had to do was ask. But, instead he assumed the worst. This makes me think that he did not trust me. He is waiting for me to do something untrustworthy, so that he can take the blame away from his actions. Why You Shouldn't Update Your Relationship Status

To all the men reading this article, please do not do this to a girl you like. If they are anything like me, she will run and you will never hear from her again. In the end, all he had to do was say he was sorry and mean it. But, there is also the fact that he didn't need to do what he did to mess it up in the first place. Think before you do things because the consequence is ending something that you will never get back.

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